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Narcissistic Celebrities sing “Imagine” | The SCG Show Ep. #25

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Celebrities around the globe mock the world with a rendition of a truly awful song.

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Signs of a Female Narcissist

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“It’s all about me, me, and me.”

From 2010-2020 I have honestly lost count how many Female Narcissists I have had the real displeasure of coming across, or dating.

I have seen a meteoric rise in narcissism as a whole more so in the last 3-5 years.

And in the past I just used to label Female Narcissists without knowing too much about their actual conditions as just “crazy!”

But as I did my research more, and the more I learnt, I realized you could peg it all back to narcissism.

I will first give you several personal examples of Female Narcissists I have had the displeasure of meeting over the years and then list the signs to look out for if you suspect someone is one.

By the way, trust your gut you are most probably right in your accusation.

For the record I have had plenty of ex female narcissists, from short term dating to full blown relationships.

Moving forward I will be referring to them as “nexes” or “nex” aka “ex-narcissists”.

All of the stories below are true and are about different people from over the years too.

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The Nex that lied about her past:

All my nexes lied about their past, every single one.

From where they worked or studied, to whom they dated.

The worst was one that denied she dated a mutual friend, despite me asking her many times but I was just way too embarrassed to question the guy.

Eventually 2-3 years later at a party the guy came to me and said “has your nex told you that we dated briefly once upon a time ago?”

I was fuming, why lie?

Because I was lied to, and I knew that if she had been lying about that, then who knows what else.

Everything she told me was a lie about her lie.

The Nex at the party:

This particular Nex was new, and we were dating for only a couple of weeks when my friend was having a party at his place inviting us over.

I brought her along and introduced this woman to all my mates for the first time, and I just got on with things and had fun.

I left my Nex inside the house whilst I was outside drinking beer with some guys, and all of a sudden I heard a commotion and some shouting.

I rushed in to suddenly see my Nex running out of the house to the front door!

Panicking I asked everybody inside “what happened?!!”

My friends had a solemn and confused look on their face, and replied “go ask your girl…”

I ran outside to catch her to which I saw she was smiling and crying like a lunatic.

“WHAT THE HELL IS GOING ON?!” I shouted.

She replied, “Oh that party was too boring, so I decided to create some drama saying you forced me to come, and that I secretly hated you! Let’s get out of here and go have sex!”

I told her to get into a cab, which she did, and I never spoke to her again.

The Nex and the Waitress:

It was my birthday, and me and an Nex were sat there having a pretty good time.

Then the waitress came over who was very polite and wished me a happy birthday.

I said “thanks,” and I simply asked her, “that’s an interesting accent where are you from?”

My nex screamed at the poor lady; “THIS DINNER IS FOR US NOT YOU, GO FETCH US OUR FOOD!”

The Nex and the Break In:

We once experienced a terrible break in on a very important religious night around 12am and so much was stolen from our family business.

The police were there, and we were devastated.

My nex happened to be with us, seeing people crying and in pain over what was lost and the trauma of the experience too.

After the police finished their investigation at 2am we left to go to bed shattered.

And then on our way home still shell shocked by it all, the nex starts having a moan; “all night you haven’t complimented my looks and my new dress, I look amazing and all you care about is your family!”

The Nex and the Selfie:

I had met a girl online through a dating app and she seemed sweet and kind – so I thought.

So I arranged to date her to which she agreed.

A few days leading up to our date she texted me a picture of herself out of the blue and said “wishing you a good morning.”

I replied simply with “good morning.”

She then lost her cool, and in all caps replied “HOW DARE YOU! WHY DIDN’T YOU CALL ME PRETTY!? AREN’T I BEAUTIFUL? AM I NOT THE BEST EVER?!”

She was NOT joking, and began crying.

Blocked and deleted this one even before we met.

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The Nex and the Restaurant:

I went on a date with a charming and beautiful woman who really had an interesting personality.

Swept up by it all I asked her out to dinner a week or so after our first meeting to which she agreed.

I picked up this Nex and on our way to the restaurant we were having a very nice conversation.

All of a sudden she asked me where we were going along with what area is the restaurant too.

I told her it was in North West London, to which amazingly she started to scream:

“I AM NOT GOING THERE!!! I WILL GET STABBED! IT IS A DREADFUL AREA! HOW DARE YOU TAKE ME THERE! CHANGE IT NOW!”

Completely stunned and lost for words and driving down a country lane late at night I had no idea how to react!

I begged her to stop shouting to which she then grabbed the steering wheel, therefore almost making us result in a crash!

I pulled over and asked her to leave before I threatened to call the police.

For me I do not see the experiences as bad luck with the Nex’s but more so vital life lessons.

I have spent hours reading, and learning more about Narcissism and by doing so it has taught me to keep my guard up and introduce healthy boundaries.

Here are from my personal experiences signs you may be dating a female narcissist;

  • They always want to be the center of attention
  • They are pathological liars
  • They are utterly obsessed and addicted to their own social media
  • They have zero empathy for you about anything or anybody else
  • They suffer from extreme jealousy and are very insecure
  • They cannot take an ounce of healthy criticism from you or anyone
  • They take sick pleasure at your pain or discomfort
  • They stir and create chaos and drama everywhere they go for supply
  • They are obsessed with how they look more than how they act
  • They are only loyal to one person – themselves

Take it from me, you are better off far away from such toxic individuals.

There are heathier and better people out there better suited to you, trust me I am the living proof of that.

Stay safe, walk away, go no contact and stick to it.

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What is Gaslighting? | 8 Signs You Are Being Gaslighted

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“Gaslighting is when you don’t remember things the same as they do, and is an attempt to change the truth.”

Deep down you know the following:

  • What you truly believe is right
  • What your goals and dreams are
  • What is morally correct
  • Who you truly are in your mind, body and soul

But suddenly out of nowhere you find yourself questioning things that you had never done so before.

You especially doubt and question other people’s motives, in particular those who happen to be the nearest and dearest to you.

You regularly ask yourself the question “who am I?”

You start to feel more neurotic and paranoid.

You may even start to ponder to yourself, “am I going crazy?”

Let me make something abundantly clear:

You’re not crazy!

If you can identify with any of the thoughts or feelings above, you are more than likely a a victim of the modern dating trend: Gaslighting.

Let’s define what Gaslighting means:

“Gaslighting is a manipulative tactic in which a person, to gain power and control, plants seeds of uncertainty in the victim.

The self-doubt and constant scepticism slowly and meticulously cause the individual to question their reality.”

I normally associate Gaslighting with Narcissists, Sociopaths or Psychopaths.

Understand that is NOT normal to be emotionally, or physically abused by anybody.

Too much Gaslighting can lead people to completely lose their minds, and sanity.

They may act out of character, and resort to quick fixes that are incredibly toxic such as gambling, drinking excessively or smoking.

To have a bit more clarity on this, I have highlighted 8 signs that you are suffering from emotional abuse aka Gaslighting, and I have also drawn most of these from my own personal experiences.

I have had Narcissistic friends, family and romantic relationships all of my life, and I have been subject to many forms of Gaslighting, and have wanted to share my thoughts on this topic for a while.

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  • Blatant Lying

Gaslighters like narcissists, are the worst and most obvious liars.

And the strange thing is deep down you know they are lying too.

You sometimes even catch them red handed and they are speechless.

And the problem with this, is they lie with just so much ease.

As a result of the frequent blatant lies, you begin questioning everything, and become unsure about whether they literally ate what they said they did for lunch.

This self-doubt and panic is what the abusers want.

My narcissistic friends would do the same, they would lie about what they did the night before.

Then I would see they went to a party or an event I wanted to attend too on social media from mutual friends.

Or romantic partners would lie that they are NOT talking or flirting with the opposite sex, only to see it blatantly happen on their social media daily.

You are not neurotic or paranoid, trust your gut.

They are lying to your face, and most likely about everything and anything too.

  • Denial

Along with the frequent lies come the frequent denials.

You have a good memory, and are not stupid, you KNOW what they said, or did.

Gaslighters may push you to unrealistic measures to “prove them wrong.”

You feel like you need to record conversations, or even film them saying what they did or spoke about in the past.

And even if you did all this, they’d still deny it!

As time goes on and the more they deny everything you accuse them off, you deny the truth too.

You will question your own reality frequently and begin accepting theirs more.

A few years back I saw a family friend having an affair and I called him out on it.

He denied it constantly threatened me with violence and so on, only for his now ex-wife finding him in bed with another woman.

I thought I was going mad, as I saw him on the road all the time with a new woman every week!

I knew his licence plate, what he looked like, I wasn’t crazy!

The more you allow the denials, the more you start believing in a false messed up world that doesn’t exist.

  • Actions speak louder than words

One of the best pieces of advice I ever heard was “talk is cheap.

It is so true with gaslighters, as due to the fact they are such huge liars, any promises they make are usually just completely false.

Their words will always mean nothing, and you are often amazed when they actually do something they’ve promised to you in the past.

Always look at what they do, not what they say.

I’ve had friends promise “I’ll meet up with you soon!” and you don’t hear from them for years.

I’ve had exes say “I will quit smoking, I will make more of an effort etc,” only to see them get far worse, and further away from their promises.

Watch what people do, NOT what they say.

  • The death of self

A scary consequence of gaslighting is in fact the gradual morph of who you were to what you become.

The more exposure you have to lies, deceit and manipulation, and the more you accept it gives birth to the shadow of your former self.

Even the most extroverted and positive people can become a shell of the person they once were.

There is no fixing that at all.

I remember not acting how I used to be, forgetting what I had believed in or similar.

It’s because you are working against a force of nature that cannot accept you for what you are, or allow you to blossom to be the best version of yourself.

I remember snapping on vacation with an ex narcissist, because I saw how they pigeon holed me into being their puppet and allowing their abuse to take control of me.

I walked away, and took the next flight home, no longer remembering who I was.

That is when it is vital to do the healing and work to rediscover who you are.

This video from the Lion King always helped me in those difficult times:

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  • Projection

Usually gaslighters are liars and are cheaters.

But often you find yourself the victim of their projection, and what that means is they often accuse you of the things they are doing.

Here are some personal examples of projection I have been subject to over the years:

“You are cheating on me”

“You are lieing to me!”

“You are worthless!”

“You have never accomplished anything!”

“You are a dreadful friend!”

“You are a useless co-worker!”

Often times with these gaslighters they are often saying how they truly feel about themselves.

The worst is you are constantly feeling the desperate need to defend yourself for something you have NEVER done or even thought of doing!

  • Confusion

I am a creature of habit and have often craved as much stability and tranquillity in my life.

I like eating at regular restaurants I like, doing things I enjoy and associating myself with likeminded quality people.

But gaslighters know you crave this and do everything to distrupt this by causing drama and other problems.

Such toxic individuals know you seek clarity, and what ends up happening is that you seek the stability in the gaslighters – not pretty.

I remember being the same, I just wanted a peaceful, simple relationship.

But my narc exes wanted to cause drama, fight, and shout because it made them feel alive.

I just wanted to go for a nice meal and have a chilled evening!

They cannot do that, and over time you become so confused with what is normal and healthy behaviour that you unconsciously allow the madness to spread and continue!

  • “You’re crazy!”

Have you ever been told some of the following?

“You’re crazy!”

“You are just jealous!”

“You are blowing this out of proportion!”

“You are just insecure!”

“You just don’t get me!”

“You are just naïve and stupid!”

“You are far too sensitive!”

“You don’t like it, do something about it!”

If you have heard any of the following like I had, by that stage the gaslighter knows you are already questioning your sanity, which is exactly where they want you.

They also know your search for clarity and stability lies with them, so when they say any of the above or similar, you believe it!

What is worse is they will tell others close to you that “you are crazy!” in advance, so when you eventually open up to people outside your relationship, you are already tarnished with the crazy brush.

Trust me on this, the people who truly love and care for you know you are associating with a toxic person, and will always back you to the hills.

  • Everyone else is a liar and the problem

Gaslighters are so toxic and manipulative that they will turn you against every person close to you.

Say goodbye to your family, friends and colleagues.

You will end up hating them, disliking them or worse accusing them of lieing to you.

The gaslighter is simply manipulated you to the point where you believe everybody else is the issue, or the problem.

Whereas THEY are the toxic person in your life.

They are the cheater.

They are the liars.

The best thing to do if you are being gaslighted or emotionally abused is to work on your exit strategy.

Go quietly, go contact, cut ties, and stick to it.

There are better, healthier and wonderful people out there who will love and cherish you for you are.

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Do Narcissists Forget You?

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“Blessed are the forgetful, for they get the better even of their blunders.”

No Narcissists don’t forget anyone, they just replace you with new supply aka somebody else because they are just bored of you.

There is a big difference between forgetting someone and not wanting someone back though.

For me and based on my experiences throughout my life Narcissists do not forget you.

However some show they have, and most show they haven’t.

I have said this plenty of times but Narcissists are no different to adult spoilt children.

They always want what they cannot have, and when they DO finally get what they want, they immediately discard it when they get bored.

Luckily for me I have both discarded and been discarded by plenty of Narcissists in my life from colleagues, to friends, and romantic partners.

I will first discuss what happens when YOU discard a Narcissist.

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Discarding a Narcissist is a very difficult thing to do, because they have most likely had a very large impact on your life.

So to suddenly go no contact after seeing the mask slip or building up the courage to do so is no easy feat, but a vitally important step in your massive recovery.

When someone discards a Narcissist, it causes the mother of all Narcissistic injuries, aka rejection.

It’s what they fear more than anything, and if you have built up the strength to do so, they won’t like it one bit.

And what will happen in their mind is you will become an obsession to them, especially if you have blocked them, moved away, or completely cut them off.

You were their drug, their supply, and they fed off your being because Narcissists are energy vampires sucking the sheer life and soul out of your very being.

And for them to suddenly not have that, like the drug addict sends them into a spiral of madness.

Narcissists are usually control freaks, so you have taken away their power and all forms of control by walking away and never speaking to them or seeing them again.

They do not know how to handle it, and they will hoover and smear you just to grab your attention.

But if you are strong and smart enough, you won’t lower yourself to this miserable tactic, and you are fully focused on your recovery.

So that’s the kicker, you are most likely self-reflecting and healing.

They however, are focused on revenge, and somehow getting you back, only to cause you more abuse in the long run.

Don’t fall for their mind games.

A Narcissist will never forget the “one that got away,” aka the shiny toy they had but never appreciated.

It will also never cross their mind that they had anything to blame for in leading to their discard.

They will always blame you to their friends, family and themselves, and constantly paint themselves out to be the victims.

That’s why they won’t forget you, because ultimately you are the enemy, and it actually makes you extremely attractive to them.

Don’t see that as a positive, it’s just human nature for these individuals, they are toxic people who just want what they cannot have.

Therefore you will always be on their mind, it’s extremely hard for them to forget you.

And funnily enough they will actually in their own sick way respect you for standing up to them, and putting up boundaries.

Do not fall for it, please.

Whilst you are healing and reflecting, they are plotting.

Even if they are with somebody else too, it’s ultimately a tool to rub in your face that they are so happy without you and try to grab your attention.

It’s a game to them, do not play it, and never participate.

What usually happens on the flip side when a Narcissist discards you is the same thing.

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They have made their mind up that they are simply bored with their toy (aka you), and want something new and shiny to play with.

So they move on pretty quickly or are not too far away from obtaining new supply either.

All of this is to show off, and rub it in your face inadvertedly that they are better without you.

For me, all my Narcissist ex-girlfriends hated their ex boyfriends.

They would describe them as “weak, pathetic,” and far worse names I would not like to share.

However, when I discarded them due to their Narcissistic personality traits or vice versa, I was given the same smear campaign, literally word for word.

Now this can hurt to hear or read, but ask yourself the following question;

“Why should you care?”

You are free of the evil clutches of a Narcissist that never loved you or gave you’re the emotional support that you were desperate for or deserved.

So why bother yourself with regards to their smear campaign?

You must take the higher ground and be the adult in all of this disgraceful behaviour.

It is all a tactic to get you to respond, to react, which is what they did to you constantly in the devaluation phase of your relationships.

Rise above it, focus on healing.

Read books, watch videos, reach out to others and educate yourself on the subject of Narcissism.

By doing this you are going to be able to have enough experience and confidence to identify such toxic individuals straight away in the future, so you won’t make the same mistake again.

And as you are healing and reflecting, they are still plotting on how to get revenge on you.

They want you to feel bad, and they want to you to feel jealous.

Because they see the world through the eyes of an entitled spoilt child.

They will not forget the ones who caused them the biggest Narcissistic injury of all, the ones who moved on to a better happier and healthier life without them in it.

Even if they discarded you, if you do not chase them, go no contact, and ultimately heal and move on they will never get over you nor forget you.

There will be constant reminders of your relationship, friendship, and times together for them to.

Remember their new supply is a weapon to throw in your face, but hopefully you are not stalking their social media or whatever knowing what they are up to.

The Narcissist of your life should well and truly be in the past, and you need to forget about them.

Do not waste your time concerned whether they are thinking about you – they always will, now there is your answer – so now please try to move on with your life.

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How Do Narcissists Act When You Go No Contact

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Congratulations! You have decided to go no contact with a Narcissist!

Consider yourself one of the few who are brave, strong and committed to a better healthier life.

Remember, breaking up or free from a Narcissist is one of the most challenging and difficult things anybody can ever do.

Why is that?

Because Narcissists are not like normal people, and therefore cannot be treated normally either.

Normal is a pretty vague term but let me give you an alternative answer.

Say you and I were friends, but we decided to no longer spend time together, like we were now on different paths, or drifted apart.

We would ideally shake hands, say our goodbyes, no hard feelings and gain an element of closure.

Narcissists don’t do closure, and you certainly won’t get that from them no matter what you do.

I have a friend let’s call him Simon who was the subject of Narcissist projection from his friend Robert.

Simon and Robert were out at a nightclub (they were both single at the time) when a girl accidentally spilled wine all over Roberts white shirt.

She apologized, but Robert went into full Narcissistic rage!

He asked for the girls to apologize over and over, and also for them to be kicked out and banned for the club!

To quote him “you are women, you are beneath me! How dare you do this!?” were his exact words according to Simon.

Then because Simon did the sensible thing and didn’t choose to participate in Robert’s crazy behaviour he walked away from the situation, disappointed by his friend’s actions.

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By doing so Robert then projected onto Simon:

“You are an idiot, why did we come to this club? It’s all your fault! Take my side you chicken! Why are you not backing me up?! How dare you do this to me?!”

Simon therefore blocked Robert and said he would never speak to him again.

The following then panned out like so:

Robert abused Simon some more over social media and via email with threats

Robert then did a smear campaign telling everybody they mutually knew how awful a person Simon was

Robert then apologized profusely begging for forgiveness

Robert after Simon did not reply and remained no contact mirrored him and ignored him thus ending all interaction for the time period.

I had the same experience with a Narcissistic ex-girlfriend.

She had driven me to the point of insanity, with her crazy actions and her constantly causing toxic drama such as shouting and screaming and acting irrational!

I had no choice but to break up with her and go no contact.

What did she do?

My Narcissist Ex abused me via email calling me all names under the sun and threatened me

My Narcissist Ex did a smear campaign saying how perfect she was and how dreadful and what a scumbag I was

My Narcissist Ex then apologized almost daily and begged to have me back

My Narcissist Ex despite all efforts decided to mirror my actions and ignore me thus ending all interaction for the time period

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I also had a friend who was a Narcissist for over 30 years and he projected recently onto me due to his insecurities and was verbally abusive.

I blocked him and cut contact and what happened?

My Narcissist Friend abused me some more not denying anything he said and said “if you agree with me that you are a loser, then you need to do something about it.”

My Narcissist Friend did a smear campaign telling all around him he did nothing wrong and I “blew things out of proportion.”

My Narcissist Friend apologized and said he loved me and wanted to nip it in the bud.

My Narcissist Friend despite his efforts decided to mirror my actions and ignore me thus ending all interaction for the time period

Notice a trend here?

Narcissists are all the same and very predictable.

Here are several things to expect when you go no contact with a Narcissist:

  • Aggression and a smear campaign

Expect Narcissistic rage beyond belief! Also expect people you know to be told how dreadful you are and how much of a scumbag you are for standing up to the Narcissist. Your true friends and family know your worth, so just rise above it no matter how hard it is.

  • They will focus on something else or somebody else aka a new supply/partner/friend

If you were dating or in a relationship with a Narcissist then chances are you were being cheated on or you were about to be. Your Narcissist will go all out on their new supply now as you are out of the picture and feel good about it. If you have been dumped by one suddenly, then they have definitely moved on almost instantly.

  • They will hoover you and try swoop you back in to their web of lies and b.s.

They will come back and see how you are, tell you they miss you, tell you they love you and how this is all “so silly, let’s nip it in the bud.” Don’t fall for the trap. Keep your guard up, don’t go back!

  • They will send flying monkeys aka friends or family to reach out to you to beg to take them back

A flying monkey is a friend or family member sent to swoop in and try be the negotiator to rekindle contact between you and the Narcissist. Ignore them, delete them, and block them too. Or if it’s someone close to you say “do not get involved,” and leave it at that.

  • They will stalk you in person or all over social media

Ideally block them off all social media, and expect them to drive by and see what you are up to, who you are with and what you are doing. If at any stage you fear for your safety please contact the police!

  • They will apologize and try convince you they have changed – don’t fall for it

This is just a hoover attempt. I had the same email slightly altered from my Narcissistic ex saying she has changed etc over the course of 2 years! They don’t. They will disappoint you. Don’t fall for the lies.

  • They will rant and name call again because they still aren’t getting their way

Narcissists are spoiled brats in adult form. They are trying everything to get your attention, don’t fall for it and expect more abuse. If they can only email you make sure their messages are marked as spam.

  • They will finally reflect your actions aka ignorance, and thus the interactions and anything further will come to a halt

They will finally get the message that you don’t want to know and they will think to ignore you to, thus hopefully remaining free of this cycle of abuse for good!

Narcissists are spoiled kids and you are the good parent they never had, standing up to them, calling out their behavior and punishing them for what they say or do.

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How To Leave A Narcissist

This video explains the first step in leaving the Narcissist in your life.

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One of the biggest mistakes people often make, is that they fall head over heels into marriages or relationships with Narcissists.

Narcissism is on an unbelievable rise globally, with more and more divorces, stories of abuse, cheating and downright crazy behaviour in society from people with relatively “normal” backgrounds.

Unlike other psychological conditions e.g. schizophrenia, psychopaths etc, Narcissism is a little bit of a grey area.

There are many reasons why a Narcissist is created in a person. Remember nobody is BORN that way. They are manipulated and created.

Spoiled and entitled children often make grade A Narcissists in adult life, as Mom and Dad told them just how amazing they were and they always got everything they wanted.

I will focus on this particular type of Narcissist as it is one I have most “experience with.”

Look at the entitled child, he or she cries, screams, moans, hits, is rude, disrespectful and what happens?

Regardless they always get their shiny toy.

This child becomes a teenager and wants the latest phone, she may not throw a tantrum to that of a child but she will always get her new shiny phone.

Then it becomes a car.

Then money.

Then an apartment or a home.

Then a partner who will do everything they want because remember they think they are “perfect.”

Dreadful parenting is a massive cause of entitlement.

Rather than instilling discipline and letting a child understand “no means no,” they create little monsters.

These monsters go out into society and see where they can get more of what they don’t deserve.

A classic red flag of a Narcissist is to see how they treat a waiter in a restaurant.

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If they are rude, disrespectful to a person who they believe is beneath them, you are probably sitting right opposite a monster.

The better parent teaches gratitude, respect and boundaries with children. Lazy parents throw money at the situation to avoid the drama.

But that drama escalates and grows like a Tornado into adult life, and what is born is ugly beyond repair.

Empathetic people are victims of Narcissists, and have been throughout the course of modern society.

Empaths don’t understand what happens when a Narcissist is upset because they try to get into the mind-set of that person.

But empaths are kind, warm, understanding and have sympathy.

Narcs have no empathy. Why should they? They crap all over people and still “always get their way.”

Ouch, thats an awful line that, god I heard it so many times before, its such an ugly statement.

Who is entitled to “their way?” Adult spoiled babies that’s who.

But how do you leave a narcissist? Chances are you are reading this I have some bad news for you:

You are probably dealing with one.

But what is never discussed is the first step into leaving a Narcissist, and I figured it out by accident months before I did so myself.

The first step in leaving a narc, is realizing you are with one.

Once you do so, you will strangely breathe a huge sigh of relief.

Narcissists are predictable, they act the same, they do the same, and they are creatures of habit.

And when you see “no empathy, disrespectful, no boundaries, entitled,” and all the other red flags you will finally realize:

“I am with a Narcissist”

Perfect! I mean that, because now you can work on your escape.

So once you are 100% sure you are with one (trust your gut here, you are likely right that they are one), it’s time to work on what is needed.

You will need to plan your divorce.

You will need to find a new place to live.

You need to find a new job.

Walking away suddenly and leaving seems tempting, but if you do so you will be piecing back together your life in a much disorganized manner.

Plan everything. Seek advice, but do not discuss this with the narcissist, EVER.

Remember when you leave, you will be going no contact, and cutting them off.

Because guess what;

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If you do not do so, they will do that to you.

The end is inevitable.

Narcs have no empathy, no remorse.

It’s why they have affairs and cheat.

But you can beat them to it, and that’s by planning your exit, and leaving with your dignity and pride.

You’ll have everything planned, and you can go on to a better and healthier life.

But remember that very first step, and that’s realizing you are with a Narcissist!

That is the key, and when that has been decided, it’s time to save your bloody life!

I consumed privately hours of content, read books and spoke to a therapist.

I highlighted all of the behaviour as I wanted to be 100% sure that I was with a Narc.

And the more I stood up for myself, the more I realized how bad and toxic Narcissists can be.

There is no talking, no explaining, no good that can come of it.

Simply put you and me and all other regular folk and professionally not trained to deal with such people.

Even therapists mention they are some of the hardest patients to treat, because remember they feel like they never do anything wrong.

It may be a gut wrenching truly awful discovery to find you are with such a toxic individual.

But it also means now is the time to plan your exit.

Luckily for me, and I mean lucky, my Narc ex was so rude and disrespectful toward me that I asked her to leave our home.

By that stage I had planned a new place to live, she was going home to her family and all was sorted.

I was weeks away from proposing, and I financially and spiritually dodged an almighty bullet.

You can too, but for god’s sake plan it.

Seek legal advice, talk to close family members and friends. Chances are they have been wanting to say you are dating the wrong person for years and they haven’t had the opportunity until now.

Keep things quiet, do it subtly from the Narcissist, it will only make things worse.

Do not feel guilty about it either, because you will need to leave eventually anyway, you might as well start today.