Has your man just dumped you without warning?
Watch the video above to find out the right way to make him miss you!
Has your man just dumped you without warning?
Watch the video above to find out the right way to make him miss you!
Let us assume you have recently just split with an ex, and it has come as a massive shock to you.
This applies to both men and women:
And all of a sudden, much to your surprise they have told you they want to break up.
In this very instance, it is important to grieve the relationship.
Bad advice is often given by many people to “move on,” or “forget about them,” but that simply isn’t the case.
Other people do not know or realize the emotional and spiritual connection you had with this person.
They made you feel special, loved, and you truly miss them deeply.
So please, cry, feel sad, and let your emotions out.
Holding on to or worse bottling them all up will set you up for an almighty emotional crash in the long run.
If not in the future you could be just walking down the street and there is something that reminds them of you, and like a blubbering baby you will just break down and cry.
Let out your feelings, feel sad, it is perfectly understandable and normal to do so.
This advice only applies by the way if you were a decent partner, you weren’t narcissistic, abusive, or betrayed their trust.
This applies to those who did “everything right,” but find themselves dumped for no apparent reason.
Personally I do not go back with exes, it is just a preference for me, however I will give you some solid advice into answering whether they will miss or forget you over time.
The truth is, assuming your ex wanted to leave you, the best thing to do is agree with their request and let them go.
Your ex for some reason or another which is not important right now, has decided to walk their own path alone.
A buddy of mine weeks before he got married broke up his engagement to go to Asia and climb Mount Everest!
He was thinking and hoping to find the answers on his life’s journey.
But he said as he was approaching the summit and all along the way:
“All I was thinking about in that cold, brutal climate was my ex. The entire time. I hadn’t heard from her since we split, and I just wanted to go home and hold her in my arms again.”
And with that when he returned he did! – And they are both happily married with two kids for over ten years.
An ex will miss you 10x more when you apply no contact.
You must be willing to allow them to walk their journey alone, and you must make sure you do the same.
Reaching out, begging and pleading will only reinforce their decision.
Like my friend the mountain climber, the fact he had heard nothing from her, and he was doing something he always wanted on his own, drove him crazy.
He couldn’t forget her, he loved her too much.
Your ex does love you, despite the fact you have been broken up with.
But bombarding them with affection, chasing them, begging them to change their mind will only push them further and further away.
Time in a break up is essential, for both partners.
Time for them to heal, and recollect their emotions.
And time for you, to improve and self-reflect, particularly after you have grieved the break up in a healthy manner.
It is easy to listen to friends and feel resentful and bitter, but you want to come to a healthy conclusion regardless and understand and accept the relationship has come to an end.
A stoic way to think of it is everything eventually comes to an end in life.
So that way, you can be grateful for even having love and a relationship to begin with.
This grateful attitude will make you happier and more peaceful in this stressful time of your life, which will allow you to attract more positive outcomes into it instead.
If you choose to be upset, moody, bitter and resentful you will only see more of that.
Remember, there are people out there who have never had love in their life, and you were lucky to experience it at all.
So as you improve yourself, and you self-reflect, inevitably your ex WILL have a wakeup call.
They will be getting on with their life, and something or someone will remind them of just how great a partner you were.
But they will only ever truly have this on their own accord, and NOT via your influence.
When they are breaking up with you, it is because they believe having a relationship with you for some reason is a negative thing.
But as time goes on, the positives will outweigh the negatives, and they will remember just how wonderful life was with you in it with them.
It is important to highlight though, if your goals were not the same then you are chasing a lost cause.
Perhaps you wanted to get married and have kids, yet your ex never shared the same opinion.
So wanting an ex back who ultimately doesn’t share the same goals or future plans with you is not the best way to think.
However assuming you were on the same page and path, time and space is essential.
So if you have allowed no contact, you haven’t chased them since the break-up, no follow up texts or late night calls, I can all but guarantee they will be missing you.
But you can only guarantee them missing you if you successfully and healthily apply no contact.
Do not post on social media how upset you are, or how much you miss them.
Keep it classy, keep it happy.
Improve and reflect privately.
And for goodness sake do not wait around for them to call.
The moment when you feel better start dating again, but not straight away.
Your ex will most likely have that wakeup call when they are out with somebody else, and they will have a rush of emotions of just how great a partner to them you were.
Remember and whilst it is not important there was a reason why they left you, however time will not necessarily make them forget that, but allow them to appreciate you much more than what they did.
It is so easy to take people for granted.
And if you truly love someone, you got to let them go.
Holding a lover hostage in a relationship they no longer want to be in, is a sure fire way to want them to forget you.
Time is on your side, everything will be fine if you apply no contact and all that I have advised. They will more likely miss you than forget you if you do so.
In this video I discuss healthy ways to make your ex guy regret losing you.
There is nothing worse than discovering that your fiancé, or hubby, or boyfriend has straight up gone and left your life like you didn’t exist.
This is NOT healthy behaviour and most likely the doing of the following personality traits;
A Cheater – cheaters are my pet hate. I loathe these types with a passion. These dishonest and disgraceful human beings have no remorse. Why would they? They’ve been sleeping with other women behind your back and lying to your face saying how much they loved you! So why else would they care about leaving you like you mean nothing to them? Sad reality is, you never were!
Narcissists – urgh, the dreaded Narc is the king of entitlement. Everything is his way, and that goes for people. You were his toy. His object. His supply. And for whatever reason (sometimes NO reason) he’s got shiny object syndrome and is straight onto his new toy, aka his new squeeze. These types have no remorse, no regrets, no empathy, nothing. You never mattered to them to begin with. I know that’s hard to understand, but the truth hurts.
Psychopaths/borderlines – ouch. I’m no Dr, but these guys straight up don’t know anything normal and healthy. So if you’ve been dumped unharmed by one of these dudes, count your lucky stars it was just a dumping. There is a deeper and much darker sides to people like this, so thank god they’ve left.
At the end of the day, no woman wants to be Carrie from Sex and the City, who got dumped on a post it note on her fridge.
But in modern times that could be a whatsapp, a snapchat, a facebook, a direct message.
“Its over, sorry.”
Ok fine, its over. No explanation, or even if you got one it’s probably lame. He’s packed his bags, or you have packed yours you have gone.
What you going to do about it?
CRY YOUR BLOODY EYES OUT!
You MAY or MAY NOT receive closure from such an individual, but that doesn’t mean you cannot create your own closure for yourself.
We must go back to centre, and heal ourselves from trauma and emotional wounds.
Not doing so will set you up for the most almighty of crashes emotionally. You can be shopping in Walmart and BOOM!
PTSD knocks you to your knees and you are crying, and have no idea why.
Remember we want to make the ex-boyfriend REGRET losing you.
Not feel good about it.
Every circumstance is different but let’s assume you were the perfect partner.
You did the following;
I’m going to assume you were not a cheater, and so on but a good person. That’s very important of course.
So what do you do?
Well assuming you’ve gone from the stage of grief, and remorse of the relationship ending, now it is time to heal but also make them regret.
Your friends will advise you poorly;
“Have a rebound, have fun!”
“Show off your new jewellery!”
“Forget men, its girls all you need!”
Wrong, my methods are healthy and will work in your favour.
Stop stalking him.
I know its hard, but trust me, you gotta do it!
That’s everything, all his social media, his whatsapp picture the whole lot. You got to stop doing it right now!
And for the love of god, please stop going by his house. What are you hoping to see?
You are acting crazy, and you are not crazy! They are for leaving you?
If he catches you stalking him in anyway, you will look like a fool, and we don’t want that.
Do not block him, unless he has been abusive or aggressive towards you in any shape or form. Let him see you which leads onto my next point.
DO NOT CONTACT HIM!
No facebook, no email, no text. Go no contact and even if he does reach out, stay no contact.
Do not reply, nothing!
This person felt so little of you to leave, so he should and will regret you giving him the cold shoulder.
Keep any social media posts you make classy.
Again do not listen to friends “I don’t need a man.”
Just post about things you love, nature, makeup, fashion whatever!
Don’t upload a video of yourself in a nightclub getting drunk.
KEEP IT CLASSY!
Take this opportunity to explore your options and date around.
NOT SLEEP AROUND, date.
Go out and meet new people.
This will eat your ex up inside if you do so. And especially if they find out through the grapevine you are dating again.
Lastly this is a key thing here and this may be difficult to understand:
Don’t play the victim.
It is extremely easy to sit there and feel sorry for yourself, and it will also make you feel better when others feel sympathetic toward your situation.
I get that, and that’s fine initially.
But if you dwell on it, for months or even years, well there is only going to be one guest at the pity party and that is you.
There is nothing more attractive than a person who goes through a hardship and comes out stronger, better and wiser.
Nobody likes the person who sits around moaning, feeling negative and living in the past full of regret and remorse.
Remember you WANT him to REGRET losing you.
If he hears you are so sad all the time and nothing without him, your ex will find that amusing and it will make him feel GOOD about himself.
We don’t want that we want to make you feel good and you will if you trust my methods.
Nothing I have suggested is spiteful, revengeful, and rude or hurts anybody.
They are simple psychological tricks to come out better in a very difficult situation.
In this video you will learn the best possible way to get your ex back into your life.
So you lost your partner, be it a girlfriend, boyfriend, husband, wife whatever.
Firstly I am sorry for what you are going through.
However break ups are one of life’s most difficult yet most important lessons.
“A breakup is like a broken mirror. It is better to leave than risk hurting yourself trying to pick up all of the broken pieces.”
“If someone makes you miserable more than they make you happy, then it is time to let them go, no matter how much you love them.”
“If you really love someone, set them free.”
I am sure you are sick and tired of reading motivational quotes and having people hug you constantly telling you “everything is going to be ok!”
And I am sure you are also fed up of talking about the break up, and reminiscing about your past relationship, aka where it went wrong, what you could have done differently etc.
Frankly that is a massive waste of time and energy.
I’m going to assume you have been dumped, have been cheated on and your partner has left you.
Let’s quickly deal with the closure “I am sorry for what has happened to you, and rest assured there are plenty of fish in the sea.”
But what if they were the one?
What if your ex was the most incredible person, and you only saw a future with them, and them alone?
What if they were the only one to truly understand you and your weird ways?
What if they were the most perfect person to settle down with and they came from an amazing background or family?
Well I know what you want, and that is obvious because otherwise you would not be reading this post.
You want your ex back!
You hang on to the hope that there is a magic formula or answer to do so.
Well actually there is but let me ask you a question:
Why do you want your ex back?
Think about it, unless there is a legitimate reason they left you such as:
You cheated on them
You lied to them
You abused them
You were violent to them
You were emotionally immature
You were selfish
You were disrespectful
You didn’t keep your promises
You were lazy
You lacked ambition
You were not on the same path
Assuming none of the above applies to you let me ask you the question slightly differently:
Why exactly do you want to get back with your ex?
I mean if you were good to them and so on, yet however they didn’t really value you the same way why would you want them back?
Let me tell you what this does.
Asking or begging for somebody to be with you who is unsure or not feeling the same way is simply the worst thing ever when it comes to relationships.
Flaky people or people who can’t seem to act like adults when it comes to relationships are not good long term partners.
It doesn’t really matter how good the sex was, or how much you both loved Game of Thrones, the fact of the matter does not change, and that is they were not on the same page as you.
They probably didn’t want to go to that next level, you were asking for them to move in, or you were about to propose.
Or for you long term people your marriage lost its spark and amazing attraction it once had.
All relationships come to an end one way or another, I mean not to be morbid you both won’t live together, so one of you will die (god forbid not soon), and there’s no bringing them back from the dead now is there?
Let’s say you’ve begged your ex back, guess what that is going to do = cause stress and anxiety beyond belief.
You know they’ve left you before, probably at a drop of a hat too, there is no stopping them doing it again.
A leopard never changes their spots, and that applies to your ex for sure.
So there you are over the moon you begged for them back, you cried, you threatened to harm yourself and guilt tripped them back into your arms.
But you watch their every move, you become so insecure, you are completely petrified knowing “oh no, they can leave me ANY TIME!”
Because by this approach it is not the right way to restart attraction!
Frank Sinatra said it best, “the best revenge is massive success.”
If you want your ex back, the key here get on with your life.
Now I am not telling you to sit on your ass and get fat, you may do that in the early mourning period as your grieve the loss of your relationship.
However, it is important to NOT under ANY circumstance CONTACT YOUR EX.
Remain a mystery, accept what has happened and remain silent.
Giving your ex space will trigger mystery, and throughout the course of mankind, mystery has always been sexy.
So your ex despite leaving you WILL think about you:
“I wonder what they are up to…”
“I wonder what they are doing…”
“I wonder if they’ve replaced me…”
By going no contact you create that mystery and it will work in your favour, but also take this opportunity to work on your self-improvement.
Why would you want to get fat, become lazy and a recluse?
You have ONE life and it is time to make sure you do what you can to make the best out of it.
A break up is a terrific motivation to keep yourself busy by:
Starting a new hobby
Starting a new business
Starting a new fitness program
Starting a new social circle of friends
Starting a new philosophy of life
I have made the most money and become the best version of myself throughout my life after rejections and breakups.
And if and WHEN your ex does reach out to you, just be cool and chilled.
Say like “I’m doing really well, and you?” if they ask what you been up to.
You do not want to be bitter, and you do not want to rush back into a relationship straight away.
Be patient, love takes time, there is absolutely no rush at all.
And if you follow these tips I guarantee you will meet them again for a coffee or a drink and they will see and hear all the wonderful things you’ve been up to.
But remember you are not improving your life to get them back, you are doing it for yourself.
You will immediately become a more attractive person, and you will even consider your options.
I remember being sat opposite an ex that rejected me and in the time we spent apart she ending up becoming addicted to drugs, and I got into the best shape of my life!
I would not be surprised by the time you see them again that you no longer want to date them again!
There are better people who will love and respect you for how you are, and the right ones do not leave or disrespect you in any kind.
Trust me on this, you may not see it now but with time being a healer, you will get there!