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How to Stop Worrying and Start Living | [ Dale Carnegie ]

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“Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow, it empties today of its strength.”

One of the greatest books I had ever read on the subject of worry was How to Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie.

In this blog post and video I will dissect the main core elements when it comes to truly thriving rather than surviving, and also combating worry before it does it to you!

Here are some fundamental facts about worry:

If you truly want to avoid worry in your life, “Live in day-tight compartments.”

What that means is live day by day, and you realize that what is truly in your control is in the present, and in the now.

Don’t stew about the futures, just live each day until bedtime.

Every day is a new life to a wise man.

When trouble or a problem faces you in full force ask yourself the following question;

What is the worst that can happen if I cannot solve my problem?

When one of my main businesses went bust, I had a very stressful period indeed.

Then I asked myself, “What is the worst that can happen if it goes?”

Well I could start a new business, transition into something else, try saving it.

By approaching it like this, I mentally accepted my fate.

Despite my disappointment, a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders.

What I then did as advised in the books I calmly tried to improve upon the worst.

So I came up with new ideas and a few years later, after a lot of work SCG SHOW was born!

I have friends and family who are nothing but chronic stressaholics.

They love to moan, whine and they like stressing themselves out over everything.

It was after I read in the book that there is an exorbitant price you can pay for worry in terms of your health.

“Those who do not know how to fight worry die young.”

Basic techniques in analysing worry:

Always remember to get the facts!

Sadly there is a load of misinterpreted and misinformed individuals out there spouting things that are just NOT true!

Half the worry in the world is caused by people trying to make decisions before they have any sufficient knowledge on which to base a decision!

After you have very carefully taken on the facts, you must come to a decision.

And once you have that decision – act on it!

Indecisive people live the most indecisive lives.

As a man who always knows what he wants and goes after it, flaky and indecisive people drive me absolutely bonkers!

Get to work on carrying out your decision ASAP, and dismiss all the anxiety over the potential outcome of your action.

Here are some questions that will help you when you are presented with a problem that you are worried about;

  • What is the problem?
  • What is the cause of the problem?
  • What are all the possible solutions?
  • What is the best solution?

I would strongly advise you remember these four questions, and put them into practice the next time you are worried over a situation.

How to break the worry habit before it breaks you:

As a former addict, I know personally how habits can make or break you.

People can become addicted to worrying, and it can consume their very soul.

I remember being in the cinema concerned over things I had no control over when watching a movie – not pretty.

A good idea is keeping busy!

Yes despite hearing this old piece of advice especially when you are going through a break up, plenty of action is one of the best therapies ever devised for this.

However, it will NOT heal your issues.

I advise doing the healing as well as keeping active.

Don’t fuss over trifles – a very wise statement.

What that means is do not sweat the small stuff – seriously.

These small, minute, insignificant things are just the mere termites of life – why let it ruin your happiness?

A good question to ask yourself is “what are the odds of this thing happening at all?”

A wonderful statistic that works in your favour that over 80% of what we worry about in our heads never actually happen!

However, in the case that what we are worried about actually happens, it is important to co-operate with the inevitable.

By doing so, and accepting it as the way it is, can be a very healing and therapeutic approach to life.

Another great way to break the habit of worry is to put a stop loss order on problems.

What that means is to decide just how much time and energy something deserves – and refuse to give it anymore.

This is a fantastic way to cope with situations.

Vent, get it out of your system, cry about it – BUT THEN LET IT GO.

It is important to let our emotions out at times, we are human at the end of the day.

Here are seven ways to have a positive mental attitude that will bring you peace of mind:

  • Fill your mind with thoughts of peace over thoughts of worry – what you think about is what you attract!
  • Do not try to get even with enemies – the best revenge is massive success.
  • Do not worry about ingratitude instead expect it – when Jesus healed ten lepers only one of them thanked him!
  • Count your blessings over your troubles – by doing this you will see how lucky you actually are.
  • Try not to imitate others – this will encourage envy which is toxic, so instead compare yourself to who you were yesterday.
  • When fate hands us a lemon make a lemonade – when I lost my business, I never would have dreamed to be doing SCG Show!
  • Be good to others, and try to create a little happiness for those around us that deserve it.

Praying can help with worry:

Even if you are an atheist, praying to the divine, the universe whoever or whatever can certainly alleviate some stress or concerns in your life.

Trust that life and the universe always wants what is best for you – because it is true.

How to keep worrying about criticism:

We live in an era of trolls, and unjust criticism.

But remember unjust criticism is often a disguised compliment.

When I got criticised by a former narcissistic friend over my appearance, it was because he was jealous of how I carried myself compared to him.

Remember that NOBODY kicks a dead dog.

You are human, you will make mistakes you are far from perfect.

But that is ok, because who is?

Whoever claims they are is narcissistic and insecure.

Be humble, know your limits, but realize with hard work and dedication you can achieve anything.

Finally here are six ways to prevent fatigue and worry to keep your energy high:

Full disclosure if you are with a toxic person, or in a toxic environment you must remember that you will only have more stress and fatigue in your life.

You cannot please the unpleasable.

But assuming that is not the case here are some further tips:

  • Rest before you get tired
  • Learn to relax at work – you do not need to burn yourself out!
  • Learn to relax at home – you need to recharge, and recover!
  • At work or home always deal with the urgent thing that must be taken care of, and through process of elimination work to get rid of all that needs to be done.
  • Make your job like a game – this will put enthusiasm into your work.
  • Do not stress about insomnia – nobody ever died from insomnia, just the damage that worrying does instead!