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Coronavirus Narcissists | The SCG Show Ep. #22

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Despite Las Vegas and New York shutting down from coronavirus, idiots around the UK have been out partying an clubbing over the weekend.

How stupid can people get?

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Coronavirus Symptoms and Covid-19 Pandemic | The SCG Show Ep. #21

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As coronavirus plagues the world in this show I discuss how to identify symptoms and the measures to take.

Disney parks worldwide are set to close, and you know they’d never close if it wasn’t serious.

And is Harry and William’s relationship beyond repair?

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Tom Hanks has the Coronavirus Pandemic | The SCG Show Ep. #20

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Tom Hanks and his wife Rita Wilson have got the Coronavirus.

Donald Trump imposes a travel ban on the US for most of Europe.

The UK will imminently decide what to do to tackle the pandemic.

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Prince Harry and Greta Thunberg Full Audio Prank Call | SCG Show

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In a bizarre state of affairs, Prince Harry falls victim to Russian pranksters pretending to be activist Greta Thunberg and her father.

When will the Royal Narcissism come to an end?

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Dating Mistakes Women Make

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“Dating is about finding out who you are and who others are….”

Dating mistakes, or mistakes in general, who doesn’t make them am I right?

I was talking to a female friend who was really annoyed and distraught about being single.

She said the usual stuff “why can’t I find a good guy etc?”

It inspired me to do the video above, and also this blog post.

I sat down over a coffee one afternoon and researched and thought back throughout my life all of the times I had dates etc.

I fortunately for you the reader had plenty of dating experience.

So this post and the video really truly belongs to those women who are looking for something serious.

Aka the women who want to settle down, have a good prosperous and ultimately healthy relationship.

Be warned there are several things I’ve missed out on the list.

One is women who are extreme feminists and hate men – they will need luck to find any good guy to settle down with them.

Secondly, be wary of friends who are single and encouraging you to do so.

Just because they’d jump off a bridge you would too?

Sadly people are very envious and jealous these days, and it is their problem they cannot attract a guy.

It doesn’t mean you should buy into that negative way of thinking.

Anyway rant over, let us begin:

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#1 – Thinking you will find love by doing nothing

Do not get me wrong I am a huge law of attraction fan.

But actions will always speak louder than any words.

This is a fact.

So if you are sitting on your ass on Instagram thinking some guy is just going to knock on your door and beg you to go out with him – you are kind of right.

But instead if you are networking, meeting new people and perhaps doing online dating, then that is significantly better.

Here is why.

If a guy randomly approaches you, it is because he finds you attractive.

But he doesn’t know you at all, and he has based it on looks alone.

You will attract narcissists and toxic men as a result of this.

It is better to get off your backside and put yourself in a vulnerable position, like a bar or singles night.

You never know who you might meet, but you won’t find it at home watching Netflix.

#2 – Too Possessive

Ladies, we men love the fact you care.

But being too over bearing and possessive is a big turn off for us.

Guys or at least good guys are really simple dudes.

We like to watch sports, see mates, chill, watch a video online, and play a video game.

Whilst we love being with you, our space is very important to us.

Robbing us of that, or being a bit too much can kill attraction, and more problems.

#3 – Too Impatient

Be wary of men who want to jump straight into a relationship after the first or second date, they are most likely narcissists.

However, if you are being too full on discussing marriage or kids and you haven’t even spent the night together you are going to scare a guy off.

I am not saying play it too cool, but don’t go all in and rush things so fast.

Love takes time, but if you are on the same page and enjoy each other’s company just enjoy the ride.

Life and the attraction between you will blossom more naturally that way.

#4 – Modern dating is to blame

Ladies, modern dating has been responsible for more relationships happening every single day.

What was once seen as taboo is now the norm.

So stop blaming it, times have changed.

People are finding the love of their lives on apps, and websites.

It is perfectly normal, there is no stigma.

And also if you don’t like them you can just un-match or block them!

It is easier than ever to meet people thanks to the internet, so stop being so stiff about it and get with the times!

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#5 – Loving an ideal over a person

A huge mistake most people make is they love the ideal over the person.

Just because a man is good looking, got a good job, or looks great in a suit does not make him the right person for you.

Most women are focusing more on the fact that the idea of having a boyfriend is better than the person they are actually with.

My advice is to get to know the person first, they may look good on paper, but ultimately they may not be a good match for you.

#6 – Not being on the same page

You will NEVER be good enough for the wrong person.

So if from the early stages you are forcing or trying to convince somebody to date you or commit to you, unfortunately you are in for a rough road ahead.

Most people never change their minds, and a man can be very stubborn.

So if you force a guy to commit and then a year or two later are surprised you are still not married, what did you expect?

Highlight your intentions early on and lay them all on the table.

That way you can have less of an issue in the future, and more of an opportunity for a blossoming healthy relationship.

#7 – Playing games

Whoever told you that game playing is attractive to guys is wrong.

Whilst playing hard to get is nice for teenagers, for most adults and serious people who want to date, any signs of games will repel a good man.

So stay clear of ghosting, taking ages to reply, trying to make him jealous and so on.

Remember you want to attract a good man, not the wrong type of man.

Most men often tell their friends how they cannot stand a woman who plays any type of games.

Ignore the advice that encourages it, don’t play.

#8 – High maintenance

Nobody likes a spoilt princess or a drama queen.

I get it, you can have standards but if you are a bit TOO over the top with your demands and requirements, then it can certainly have a detrimental effect on your relationship and dating.

Do not get me wrong, men love to spoil their partners, but in doses.

Constantly being demanding about expensive gifts etc, is a sure fire way to turn a man off.

It is also a form of narcissism, and trust me nobody wants to be around that.

#9 – Acting single when you are committed

So you finally get into a relationship or seriously dating one guy.

Yet you are still out partying to all hours, drinking excessively, or flirting openly with other men like you are single.

This is not only a huge red flag, but a massive turn off for most men.

When you are committed stop partying as much, stop acting like a singleton.

Hopefully you have found the one now, so stay committed.

#10 – Flakiness

If you asked most guys what is a huge turn off for them when it comes to dating, flakiness will be near enough the top of the list.

Ladies, if you can’t make a decision say so.

If you cannot commit say so.

Nothing will ruin your chances of a good relationship more than being unable to commit or being flaky.

It is a massive downside to a blossoming relationship or first interaction.

If you are flaky there is a chance you will be left aside for somebody else.

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Prince Harry Prank Call | The SCG Show Ep. #19

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Prince Harry embarrasses himself by assuming he is talking to Greta Thunberg but instead is being prank called.

BetterHelp gets my honest and sincere opinion on its services.

And the state of modern dating, where we at and where are we going?

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Narcissist or Sociopath | Spot The Difference

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In the video above I go into detail of the fundamental differences between a narcissist and a sociopath.

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Prince Harry and Meghan Markle make final appearance as Royals | The SCG Show Ep. #18

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Harry and Meghan are emotional as they are snubbed by the Queen at their final appearance as Royals.

Italy goes into lock down, but is the media scaring people regarding the coronavirus?

And some huge leaks come off the set of the upcoming movie Space Jam 2!

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How to Disarm a Narcissist | Phrases to Disarm a Narcissist

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“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but walking away from you will heal me.”

As a survivor of narcissistic abuse from friends, family and ex-girlfriends over the years, I believe I have a vast amount of experience when it comes to dealing with these toxic individuals.

What we must remember is we are interacting with a different type of “animal,” these people are NOT normal.

Reasoning, talking things through, applying logic is a complete utter waste of time, and energy.

I would also not entertain the idea of going to a therapist with these people.

Most therapists are sadly not well versed in the subject or spectrum of narcissism, so they often take sides with the more vulnerable partner.

And that may make you the culprit, as the narcissist can play the victim very well, they are actors don’t forget.

So whilst you think you are getting some progress made, you will more likely end up coming home from therapy revaluating your life because the therapist has believed a bunch of bullshit laid out to them by your narcissist.

So save your time, I have learnt far more off YouTube and through many amazing books and blogs about the very subject.

Ultimately I am going to list several ways and phrases you can use to disarm these people.

Remember we are not here trying to seek out revenge, although I am sure you want to or deserve to.

But we must look at the bigger picture – ultimately you have been in contact with a narcissist in your life for far too long.

You’ve tried everything, you are at the end of your tether.

In fact, you have run out of ideas or ways to resolve the situation.

So what do you do?

How do you fix things?

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Before we go into the practical steps to take you must understand that these people are toxic and somewhat dangerous to your peace and progress.

If you ever want to have a peaceful and truly meaningful happy life, it is very important to take responsibility for your actions.

Therefore anybody you entertain in your personal space at all, will have a humongous say on how your life pans out.

If I was still with ex- narcissists girlfriends I would have stagnated, failed and been nowhere.

If I still socialized with narcissist friends I would be riddled with insecurities, feel awful about myself and again going nowhere.

Fortunately I am a very ambitious, very self-assured person now.

I have also increased my standards and infiltrated healthy boundaries.

Those who are in and around my life know what I find acceptable and unacceptable.

Narcissists if you learn all the lessons and grow along the way will teach you that.

However if you don’t you will find yourself sadly in a spiralling mess, playing the victim and questioning your reality.

On top of that you will just attracting more and more toxic people and bemoan your existence along the way.

So take responsibility for your actions.

People are replaceable.

Your happiness MUST come first.

By putting up healthy boundaries you will not encourage toxic people to destroy your life.

Let us begin in how to disarm a narcissist:

#1 – Stop feeding the ego.

Narcissist’s fuel is supply.

And supply comes from attention.

Sadly that attention can be positive or negative.

Therefore just you being present to their madness and crazy ways will in fact give them the fuel they need to feed their ego.

A Narcissist will tell you that “you are looking at other girls/guys and you don’t find me attractive.”

This is the type of usual crap they come out with, to which you reply with “no of course I am not you are gorgeous to me, you know that, I wouldn’t do that.”

What is this doing?

It is manipulation in its purest form.

They have manipulated you to question your reality and feel guilty for something that you never even did.

I am pretty sure you were not checking anybody else out.

However, as a result, they get a compliment out of it, as well as devaluing you at the same time.

The solution is don’t fall for it.

If they accuse you of stuff that makes no sense, or try to argue for no reason – do not feed the ego.

Do not engage in it, do not entertain it.

Ignore it.

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#2 – Say “I’m sorry you feel that way.”

You cannot please the unpleasable.

Narcissists are unpleasable, they are never satisfied and no different to adult spoilt children.

Therefore like the ego, don’t be surprised that they are unimpressed or annoyed by something you do.

It could be anything, it could be absolutely nothing but they will find a way to cause an argument.

But by responding with “I’m sorry you feel that way,” there is nothing they can say to that.

You cannot apply logic, reasoning or any type of normal healthy communication.

These are messed up idiots who only want to make you feel crap.

So let them stew at the fact they are annoyed at something about you, and don’t feel guilty about it.

It is their problem, let them deal with it.

#3 – Do NOT take responsibility for their emotions

Narcissists throw temper tantrums.

Similar to a spoilt brat not allowed to get the toy they are after.

This is called narcissistic rage.

But the problem is, because you are closest to them, they believe and have such little respect for you that they can say or do anything they want to you.

This is called projection.

Newsflash you are not somebodies punching bag, and nobody has a right to abuse you just because they had a bad day or are insecure.

Let them sort their own emotions out, they are adults.

You are not there to take on their crap, and guess what you cannot fix it?

Why?

Because you cannot please the unpleasable.

Make sure you remember this, it is vital.

#4 – Do NOT accept their wrong perception of you

Similar to I’m sorry you feel that way, narcissists are manipulators, liars and cheaters especially of the truth.

They are so wrapped up in their own bullshit that they will try to convince the world that they are right, and everybody is wrong.

Unfortunately they use dirty manipulative tactics in doing so.

And they can often succeed.

However that is where you need to stand up for yourself.

If they call you a cheat, and you are not one that isn’t you.

If they call you abusive, when THEY are abusing you, again it is not you.

Only you know who you are and what you can do or what your limits are.

So therefore do not accept what they say about you to be true.

It is a lie, and sadly in case you did not know the narcissist’s entire life is a big fat lie.

#5 – Do NOT sink to their level

Narcissists believe the rules do not apply to them.

Their ego and inflated view of themselves believes they can do or be whatever they want.

They are some of the biggest fools on the planet.

I am not a goody two shoes, but at the end of the day I respect that there are rules in place, such as the law.

A narcissist will break the law, if it meant they can get their way.

They will steal, cheat, lie, be violent, swear, shout, cause a scene.

They will happily embarrass you in public.

What do you do?

Do NOT sink to their level.

They will play dirty, and rough, but remember you are better than that.

Those who argue with a fool, from a distance look like one too.

#6 – No reasoning

I can tell you with over 3 decades of experience there is NO reasoning with a narcissist.

You will never get the time back you wasted arguing, talking and talking and going round in circles.

It is better to spend your life on good things and good people.

If someone cannot be reasoned with, do not waste your time.

Which leads me to the final point.

#7 – Walk away and go no contact

Narcissists lose in the end, and the one thing they are almost guaranteed to lose is a good person.

That is most likely you.

But once you truly cannot take it anymore, you have to seriously walk away, and not look back.

And NO contact means NO contact.

That means blocking and deleting them off everywhere.

Look at the above and remind yourself all the drama and crap you have been through.

If there is no reasoning with them, why bother to entertain them at all?

Walk away, stay away and learn about what has happened, so you can therefore never let such awful people into your life again.

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10 Signs Someone Really Loves You

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“The course of true love never did run smooth. …”

As a survivor of narcissistic abuse from friends, family, I noticed that the word “love” is thrown about a bit too often nowadays.

For example, people “love” coffee, people “love,” movies, etc etc.

But how many people truly love one another?

In an age and society of entitlement being on the rise, how can we be so sure that the person we hold and love so dearly in our hearts feels the same?

As somebody who has removed toxic people from their life and allowed better and normal healthy ones into it instead, you can see a significant difference.

But rather than focusing on red flags, let us focus instead on what to look for.

I have collected ten signs that I believe to be great indications somebody does truly love you.

But be warned, narcissists and toxic people can put on one hell of an act, however if you are seeing roughly over 50% of the total ten signs I am going to list, I can safely say you are not in dangerous waters for sure.

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#1 – They have fun with you regardless

It is easy to love each other if you are on a rollercoaster, or watching an epic movie, or eating an amazing meal in a fancy restaurant.

But if you are opposite each other doing laundry, filling up petrol, or just walking in the park, and the energy is good and you are having a blast – they are a keeper.

Be warned of those who seek constant thrills, and money spent to hang out.

Those who truly love you, will do anything with you and will make it fun because they have a good positive, happy energy in your presence.

#2 – They treat you like they love you

This may be tough to understand but I will explain it to you in very simple terms.

Imagine you love someone or something, how do you treat it?

With care, respect, admiration, and you want what is best for it or them.

The same is going back in your direction.

If that person listens, respects you, wants what is best for you and above all compromises, they truly love you.

If you find yourself butting heads on the most basic of issues, then I am sorry, you have problems ahead of you my friend.

Good partners put you first and love everything about you, and their actions match their words.

A narcissist doesn’t, and you find yourself confused because they say they love you, but treat you like crap.

#3 – They look at you a lot

If someone is buried in their phone, or always looking away, that person doesn’t love you, truly at all.

Or if that person is fixated on you, especially when you may not look or feel your best, that person loves you truly.

I remember driving with an ex-girlfriend and we were singing songs in my car, and I could just feel her staring at me the whole time.

She adored me, and I am not going to lie it is a great feeling to experience.

Be sure to look at that persons actions especially with their eye contact toward you.

Those who look elsewhere, have their mind and heart elsewhere too.

#4 – They want to be with you a lot

My uncle told me this when I was a kid, “if somebody sacrifices their Friday or Saturday night when they could be partying with friends for an evening with you, they really love you.”

He was 100% right!

When somebody wants to spend all their time with you, they truly adore you.

They want to do everything and anything with you.

Even just going for a drive to pick up dry cleaning, they will do that and happily too because they love spending every second with you.

This is hard to find these days, especially with all the distractions of the world.

But luckily there are some who still act and feel this way.

Look out for it, the more they want to spend time with you the more they are in love with you.

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#5 – They show empathy towards you in the good and bad times

A crystal clear indication someone is a narcissist or doesn’t love you is lack of empathy.

I remember the amount of times I tried to explain how I felt and was barely understood by an ex narcissist.

It was incredibly frustrating, and of course very upsetting too.

So when somebody is able to be empathetic, and feel the feelings you are going through, then you will know that person truly loves you.

A good scene in a movie is the Elliott and ET scene where they experience the same feelings mutually.

It is no different with a loved one.

If they are able to offer you emotional support through good and bad times, irrespective of how you feel they are truly in love with you.

#6 – Love is not hard or painful

One of the worst lies an ex narcissist told me is “sometimes relationships are rough, and you should accept that as normal.”

Whilst struggle can be inevitable, ultimately you should be very weary when it happens all the time.

When you are constantly fighting, and there is drama or more bad days then good – RUN.

Love should not be hard or painful.

You should not have to tread on eggshells, or worry how to act or be.

It is cliché but being yourself and being accepted by the other person is wonderful.

That is true love, not whatever a person tells you it should be.

#7 – They remember the little things

There is nothing sweeter and no clearer sign of true love when someone remembers the little things that make you who you are.

And no I am not talking about your birthday.

It is the little quirks or things you like or dislike.

For example I don’t like cheddar cheese, and one of my ex made a special meal for me without cheddar.

I only mentioned it once, but because she loved me she remembered.

These people are going above and beyond to please you, and that is why they remember.

#8 – You feel comfortable and safe

This is some amazing advice, if you never feel the following you are with a perfect partner;

  • Anxiety
  • Shame
  • Disrespect
  • Abuse
  • Afraid
  • Annoyed
  • Uncomfortable

A good partner loves you for who you are, inside and out.

They don’t play games, or make you feel bad.

You are allowed to be whom you are, and as a result you are loved for it.

You can be and feel completely safe around this person – always.

#9 – They see you in their future

If a person loves you very deeply they are perfectly fine with who you are.

That means also, they see you in the future.

That may mean, moving in together, or getting engaged, marriage or kids.

If they often plan their future with you in it, there is a huge sign they love you very much.

It could even mean a week in advance, when they see you full enrolled in their lives and immediate future, rest assured you are loved very much.

However if somebody cannot even properly commit to you short term in any capacity, or show any sign that they are serious about you – do not consider them for a relationship.

#10 – They are genuinely afraid to lose you

A person who truly loves you, and isn’t a toxic person manipulating you with games, is and would be devastated to lose you.

They have grown accustomed to you in their personal lives, and the very thought of them losing you, crushes them.

Many people unfortunately can use this to their advantage, particularly toxic people.

But those who are genuine and love that person mutually won’t.

In fact the feeling is mutual.

When love is pure and you are both happy – why leave?

Why even think about leaving?

Cherish each other, because whilst it may be tricky to find, true love is wonderful to experience and behold.