“Keep your friends close, and enemies closer, however keep a Narcissist as far away as humanely possible.”
Let me be brutally honest, Narcissists are a pain in the ass all year round.
But in a crisis how do they fair?
Especially a pandemic?
Unfortunately, I have had many encounters with these awful people, and chosen still to have kept my distance, irrespective of what has happened.
I hope you are doing the same, and if not, perhaps this post MAY help you.
What I have done is taken the most obvious traits of a Narcissist and compared it to the current coronavirus pandemic.
It will shock you how low these individuals will go for supply.
Let us begin:
Grandiose sense of self-importance
All over the world people have defied the lockdown rules and regulations.
People have seen friends, had sexual encounters, parties, and even dealt drugs.
Because their self-importance trumps all.
Yes, the Narcissist irrespective of what is happening in the world always does what they want, because of an overwhelming feel of self-importance.
Narcissists also believe that they are better than everyone else and expect recognition as such—even when they have done nothing to earn it.
So, they believe that how they are coping, or what they think is right regards to the disease, rules, the lockdown what have you been the only thing that matters.
They will lecture you, question your decision making, tell you how you are going wrong, or that you are being “too cautious.”
Yet you will find Narcissists not even following their own advice because it does not suit them.
Oh yeah, did I mention these people are hypocritical.
Lives in a fantasy world
The real world does not suit the Narcissist, because there are rules, restrictions and most likely the average person thinks they are awful.
So why live in a world where you are seen for your true colours and instead create a fake fantasy world where you are the king or queen of the universe?
Where everybody loves you, and you are the greatest?
This especially applies to a pandemic.
Due to their lack of empathy, the Narcissist genuinely believes they are being starved of attention, supply, and so much more trivial and simple things.
For example, even just getting drunk with their friends, it is an insult to the Narcissist that they cannot do that.
Or say you are going through absolute turmoil or hell due to this dreadful virus, the Narcissist genuinely believes they have it worse than you in their world as they cannot see their hairdresser.
Anything that threatens to burst the fantasy bubble is met with extreme defensiveness and even rage, so those around the narcissist learn to tread carefully around their denial of reality.
Needing constant praise
Narcissist’s love attention good or bad, irrespective of a pandemic, and this is commonly referred to as “supply.”
But if they are praised for even the most basic of tasks, they will soak that up.
I am not joking they will ADORE YOU for it if you are foolish enough to give it to them.
So, in the pandemic, even them going to the shops, wearing a mask, or sitting on their backsides taking endless selfies of themselves for their social media, they are addicted to the praise.
How sad, do not give it to them, cut them off, eliminate the supply.
Key workers such as Doctors, Nurses and supermarket staff are the ones who deserve the praise and admiration, not the Narcs!
Not some jackass or silly woman who loves themselves for no good reason.
Sense of entitlement
It is disgraceful how entitled Narcissists are in normal times let alone a pandemic.
However, look at the following things Narcissists have been doing just from personal experience:
- Stockpiling food and toilet paper
- Hosting parties
- Meeting up with friends
- Stocking up on masks and PPE over keyworkers
Yes, they could not care less about others at all, as they lack even the basics of empathy.
They genuinely believe they are like royalty, so therefore whatever they say GOES.
Do not expect any support, love, or praise from these selfish people.
Exploits others without guilt or shame
Narcissists will name or shame or abuse others for their own benefit.
In a pandemic they will exploit others, fake illness and conditions just so others risk their lives to go out and buy them groceries.
Even Narcissists will abuse the system to get sick pay, and their employers when there is absolutely nothing wrong with them.
And because they have no empathy for anybody or anything they will not care and sink as low as possible in their pursuit to get their own way.
So do not think they will feel bad if they gaslight you into doing something for them in a time of emergency or crisis.
Frequently intimidates you
Narcissists are as supportive as a plastic bag in the wind.
Meaning they are NOT your rock or shoulder to cry on.
They are also NOT reliable, and they WILL stab you in the back.
And if you haven’t been personally burnt by a narcissist then please do count your blessings.
They will humiliate, embarrass, and intimidate you especially if you call them out on their behaviour.
Even in a pandemic a Narcissist will stoop as low as to frame you and play the victim to authorities to make you feel awful.
Remember the line that nobody would cross?
Well they will hopscotch all over it and leave you without a trace, ESPECIALLY in a pandemic.
What you should do with Narcissists in a pandemic
- Remain no contact or go no contact
- Do not give them any of your time, energy, or attention
- Do not trust what they say
- Do not rely on them in any sort of emergency
- Stand up for yourself by walking away from their intimidation
- Understand and put them into the category of Narcissists
- Call the authorities if you feel unsafe at all
Pandemics and emergencies really differentiate the weak from the strong.
And frankly Narcissists are cowards and always lose in the end, and hopefully you know who the people are who truly love you and want what is best for you.