Why You Need to Block Someone
This post is about why you need to block someone.
There are 5 reasons I have collected on why you need to block somebody on all forms of contact from social media to your phone.
In the day and age of technology, communication could not be easier.
We can contact somebody through social media, WhatsApp, text or even video calling.
Thanks so smart phones people are available to contact no matter which way you prefer to.
However, the problem with that is people can also stalk you, track you easier, and god forbid find ways to hack into your private accounts.
But I was having a conversation with a close friend who asked me the question:
What are the reasons why somebody would block somebody else?
I have blocked a fair amount of people for many different reasons in my life, and I can assure you that I too have been blocked a lot too.
But why did I do it?
Why did they do it to me?
What is the tipping point?
What took me to the point of no return?
What warrants the need to completely go cold turkey and remove somebody from your life?
Blocking somebody whilst may seem harsh is the easiest form of saying no.
By pressing one little button on social media or on our phones, we can almost eliminate all conversation.
Physically through technology there is no way that person can ever contact you again.
They are done, you are done with them, it is completely over.
Sure, some people lead to unblocking others and trying to go back to normal.
Then there is the case of people blocking people so they can just take a break from society when things become difficult or too overwhelming.
There are many reasons why this happens.
But I have thought long and hard as to why I have made the decision to block people in my life over the years.
And I am delighted to say I think I have the most realistic reasons.
I will eliminate the obvious ones:
Your ex-co-workers or bosses
Here are the 5 reasons why you need to block someone:
#1 – To Stop Abuse
Is somebody abusing you?
Are any of the following occurring towards you?
- emotional abuse.
- sexual abuse.
- sexual exploitation.
It will be a particularly good idea to just stop this immediately and block the person who is doing that with immediate effect.
A woman I know went on a date with a lunatic from Tinder, and he bombarded her phone with texts, calls, photos, and even dangerous threats.
Because she was a very patient and kind person, she allowed it to continue.
When sure enough he never stopped and then started showing up to her home to the point where she got a restraining order and couldn’t take it anymore.
If you give people an inch, they will take a mile.
Especially toxic and sociopathic people.
There was a stage where getting a person’s number was almost seem like a victory in the dating world back in the 90’s.
But now people are throwing their number and personal social media around like confetti.
The boundary, aka the personal one is eliminated.
It is like opening your door to your home and asking the world to come in and do and take whatever they want.
So if you are currently being abused in any kind, for whatever reason you are better off blocking these people immediately.
It does not matter who is doing the abusing, there is a line that must never be crossed.
If they have crossed that line, you can sure as hell guarantee that they will do it again.
Why is that the case?
Because I will repeat it again:
If you give people an inch, they will take a mile.
People can hide behind their phone and spit out abuse and insults to people, because it is easier and less intimidating.
Some of the nastiest things I’ve ever read have been through texts or private messages.
Have some self-respect and block the person hurling you abuse immediately.
#2 – To Clear Your Head
I can speak from personal experience here and I want you to take what I am about to tell you extremely seriously:
If you surround yourself with a toxic person, you will have a toxic life.
Toxic, negative, and difficult people will destroy your life if you allow them to.
I remember having the most amount of work stress I had to ever endure.
It was so difficult and overwhelming that when I could relax it was the only time I had to think clearly.
And by think clearly, I mean think successfully to get out of the mess I found myself in and go back to a better way of life.
However, I was dating a narcissist at the time.
And if you have ever dated a narcissist, peace and quiet at all with them is as rare as a UFO sighting.
How do you think I faired?
Answer I didn’t, I became more stressed, more agitated, more frustrated.
I was making mistakes in my work, my decision making was off, I was a complete mess.
My life was on the verge of becoming a complete disaster.
It was only when I blocked and removed that narcissist from my life did I immediately sense a feeling of peace.
I found a huge weight lift off my shoulders.
I began to smile more.
I could sleep better.
I ate better.
But most importantly of all I could think better.
By having clouded thinking, you are setting yourself up for chaos.
That is why regardless of what they are saying or doing or even what they mean to you, the person who you are thinking of blocking needs to be blocked.
Most likely you have tried everything:
You’ve tried reasoning
You’ve tried talking it through
You’ve explained you are exhausted
You have emphasized that you need space and a break
But like that moth that just won’t go away and constantly pesters you, they just won’t listen.
Remove them and think clearer so you can realize how your life is better without them.
#3 – To Create Healthy Boundaries
Blocking someone will give you the confidence to create a healthy boundary, and ultimately protect you from such malevolent people in the future.
What does it mean to have a healthy boundary?
Based on my own personal experience I believe having boundaries is having the mental strength and resilience to protect yourself from abuse of any type.
There is something you really need to understand, and you must remember, because like you I was very naïve and easily manipulated.
The world is not all sunshine and rainbows, it is a very mean and nasty world, and it does not matter how tough you are it will beat you to your knees if you let it.
And with that there are some very nasty and evil people in this world.
Liars, cheaters, narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths to name a few.
These toxic people are out to destroy the world and those who stand in their way.
Again, I’ll repeat this:
If you give someone an inch, they will take a mile.
Never has this been truer than the current world that we live in.
So, by blocking this person you are doing what 99% of other people are afraid of doing:
You are creating a healthy boundary.
You have analysed the situation enough to justify your action.
When I block somebody, I will often go through the following narrative in my head:
“Ok this person has disrespected me for the last time, if I carry on allowing them to do this, then I will only have a worse opinion of myself and of them. There is no point in letting them carry on doing this to me, I must block them and move on.”
I know it can be exceedingly difficult to think so logically in a situation like this, especially if you have been emotionally triggered too.
But you NEED to.
What is more by doing this you are setting yourself up for future protection from such toxic individuals for the future.
Blocking the toxic person in your life will give you the confidence to do the same in the future too.
Believe it or not, there are not many good genuine people in the world.
And the more people you meet and network with, the more you will realize it.
Therefore, by blocking them and creating that boundary you will have the understanding and the knowhow to do it again in the future.
You are almost mentally preparing yourself for the future.
It is also extremely attractive doing this, and you will hold yourself in higher regard too.
#4 – Stop Negativity
Negative and toxic people will always find a way to ruin your happiness, rain on your parade and destroy any positive beliefs you may have.
There was never a statue built of a critic.
If you are receiving the following from somebody:
Negative messages of any kind
It means you are going to bring and allow negativity in your life.
It does NOT matter how positive you are, the more you surround yourself with toxicity the more toxic your overall life will become too.
You become who you surround yourself with.
I remember seeing a girl that no matter what or how she created drama.
I was working on a huge project for work, which required my full attention.
What did this negative Nancy do?
She told me how she got herself into a physical fight with her brother and how she was bleeding and badly hurt.
I dropped everything and rushed to her home to see if she was ok, only to find that it was a little scuffle and she was fine.
But even still, what the hell was I doing with a person like that?!
And sure, enough I lost my focus, took my eye off the prize with my work, and did a lousy job overall.
If you are at all ambitious or have goals, it will require a huge amount of dedication, discipline, and positive thinking.
But if you have a negative voice of any kind in your ear or blowing up your phone, I can guarantee you they will find a way to derail you and question your motives.
That is why you MUST block these people regardless of your career or goals, with immediate effect.
They will serve nothing for you but more problems.
#5 – You Deserve Better
Ultimately whenever I have blocked and kept ANYBODY blocked I do it for life.
I never go back on my blocking because I have enough self-respect for myself and ultimately, I know I deserve better.
You do too, and I do not care if you doubt that I am here to assure you that you do.
You deserve respect
You deserve love
You deserve admiration
You deserve support
You deserve positivity
You deserve happiness
You deserve success
You deserve kindness
You deserve a chance
You deserve to win
You do not deserve:
Make friends and associate with people that want the best for you, nothing else.
And if you have not done it already block that person, do not look back and go out there and enjoy your life.