The People Who Will Waste Your Time
This post is about the people who will waste your time in your life.
Based on my own personal experiences there are three types of people you need to avoid in your life who will do nothing but waste your time.
How much do you value your life?
Also how much do you truly value your time?
Away from our jobs, our work, our businesses etc, our down time and social life plays a huge factor in our overall happiness and development.
Based on all our individual traits and personalities, there is one thing we all as people have in common if we choose to:
Whether we have strong boundaries or not, boundaries are there for us to not only protect us but to potentially improve our lives.
If you opened the door to your house and told the world to come in and take and use everything you had, you would be left with nothing.
That is what people are doing without realizing it with their personal lives, they are opening the door so people can come in and abuse, manipulate and destroy everything they ever created.
There is a great saying it can take two decades to build something and two minutes to destroy it all.
What constitutes a timewaster?
In my opinion a timewaster is somebody you allow into your life who has sold you down a path you naively believed to be true only to realize that it was a complete hoax or lie.
The best way to handle these people is call them out on their behaviour or just ignore them and walk away.
And when I mean walk away, I mean walk away.
My friends used to laugh at me and say, “why are you blocking these people etc?”
And I’d say, “because they are of no use to my life, I’ve experienced just a small dose of what they have to offer, which is nothing.”
Ambitious people have no time for malevolent, evil, lazy, toxic, or negative people.
Some of the worlds most powerful and wealthiest people stress that you become the 5 people you surround yourself with.
So, this advice does not apply no disrespect to the people who are content where they are and do not want to work hard and strive to have a better life and become a better person.
This is for the people who want to learn how to improve their boundaries, what to look out for in terms of negative people so to avoid them in the future, I wish somebody gave me this advice when I was younger too.
Here are the 3 types of people who will waste your time and you need to avoid.
#1 – Fake People
What exactly is a fake person?
Well according to urban dictionary:
“Fake people are people who will act like your friend, but the truth is that they are back stabbers they will talk behind your back and say the rudest things about you. Yet when they see you they act like your best friend.”
A fake person can be a family member, a friend, a colleague, or somebody you are dating.
Here are some of the usual things a fake person will do:
Fake people make plans they never commit to.
Fake people are genuinely infatuated with themselves.
Fake people only respect wealthy and powerful people, nobody else.
Fake people only contact you when they want or need something.
Fake people are NEVER there for you when you need them most.
Fake people are extremely judgemental of you, especially behind your back.
Fake people are attention seekers.
Fake people will put you down whenever or however they wish.
Fake people do not listen when you talk.
Fake people hide their emotions.
Fake people love to brag all the time.
Fake people will do whatever it takes to keep up appearances.
Fake people are unhealthily addicted to social media.
Fake people will never understand genuine criticism.
Fake people are obsessed with trying to please everybody.
I am sure I have left some important traits out here, but I hope you get the general idea.
A great description of a fake person is they are almost like tourists.
They vacation into people’s lives, they take a few pictures, have some experiences, and leave in the blink of an eye.
Why do they do this?
Because they are ultimately selfish, they do not care about the people they are getting themselves involved with at all.
All they care about is what they can get out of an experience.
Good wholesome decent people allow these fake people in unknowingly only to realize that they were never offering anything of value but wasting time.
They waste your time because they deem you and your life unimportant.
#2 – Liars
The most dangerous liars are those who are convinced they are telling you the truth.
There are many reasons why a liar is a dangerous person to have in your life:
They may cheat on you
They may steal from you
They may scam you
They may destroy your family
They may destroy your relationships
They may destroy your business
I remember going to a party with a foolish woman I was seeing many years ago.
She was bored and to create drama she told all my friends (who she was meeting for the first time), that “he forced me against my will to come here, I need to get out of here!”
I was outside in the garden drinking a beer with some friends when someone from inside told me my date had run off screaming and crying!
Like a fool I ran outside and chased after her only to find her round the corner alone laughing to herself.
I said to her “what is wrong?! What did you tell people?!”
To which this lunatic replied, “oh it was a boring party, so I made up this white lie in order to make things a bit more exciting that you forced me here and I felt like a prisoner! Come on let’s go to a bar!”
I walked away from her and never looked back.
Not only are liars a waste of time, but they are extremely destructive to your health and personal life.
Why let a snake into your home?
You wouldn’t WANT to do that would you?
Liars will also waste your time by doing the following:
Make you believe they like or love you
Make you believe they are trustworthy
Make you invest in them
Make you invest your time in them
Make you believe they are good people
Make you believe they had a good past
Make you believe they are worth your time
Avoid these time wasters like the plague, otherwise your life will end up becoming a big fat lie.
#3 – Narcissists
If you are new to my content, I speak about Narcissists a great deal.
Narcissists are not only an enormous waste of time to your life, but also can be extremely destructive to it too.
I have had the displeasure of dating several Narcissists in my life and come across my fair share of them in my career and even in my own family.
What is a Narcissist in case you didn’t know?
“a person who has an excessive interest in or admiration of themselves.”
Narcissists are terribly like fake people and liars, but so much worse.
They are the very people you need to avoid not only to not have your time no longer wasted, but for you to have a better healthier and happier life.
Narcissists will waste your time by doing the following:
They will lie about absolutely everything
They will manipulate your emotions to assume YOU are the problem not them
They will cause drama constantly and blame you for it
They will turn people against you
They will eat into your work life
They will make you lose sleep with anxiety
They will make you more stressed
They will force you to walk on eggshells
They will make you feel you cannot live without them
They will only talk about themselves
They will make you go and do things they want only
They will abuse you
They will talk behind your back
They will try to destroy your reputation
Not only are these toxic individuals as I’ve already mentioned a colossal waste of your time, but also highly destructive to it!
Not only is the narcissist a time waster and abusive then they are in your life, but also after you leave them, they follow you up, stalk you, hoover you, and for some people it can take them months or even years to get over the trauma.
My advice is for you to get away from these people ASAP, go no contact, block, delete them and never look back.
Narcissists are some of the worst people you can associate with, not only for your time but also for your wellbeing.