Why Walking Away is So Powerful
This post is about why walking away is so powerful!
I will highlight 4 key reasons behind why walking away can be so powerful for you and your life!
When I was a kid, I was always so petrified of losing things.
- I feared losing my toys.
- I feared losing my friends.
- I feared losing my backpack at school!
- I also used to be very fearful of good things coming to an end.
I moved school a lot when I was a kid, so everything was short term for me, including my relationships.
I was always changing friends that as much as I really wanted to, I never had that special bond as I was constantly moving about.
This slight phobia of losing or getting hurt carried on into my adult life, it is called:
Pistanthrophobia = the phobia of getting hurt by someone.
What has this got to do with walking away?
It is simple really; most people are afraid of the unknown.
They are scared at trying something new.
They lack the confidence and self-belief to pick themselves up again, especially when they fail or lose.
So, they do not try and believe in themselves enough to try out something different.
That is why so many people find themselves in toxic relationships and believe that it is the best they can do.
For me I have walked away from the following:
- Family Members
- Social Events
- Business Deals
I am not telling you this to show off, but simply that if I can do it, then so can you.
Walking away is not actually hard to do, however it can be extremely powerful and greatly beneficial to your development and overall life.
Do not stick with something or somebody just because you think it is the “best you can do.”
You deserve so much better!
Here are 4 reasons why walking away is so powerful:
#1 – You Gain an Abundance Mentality
By walking away, you give yourself an abundance mentality/mindset.
For those who do not know what an abundance mindset is:
A person with an abundant mentality is an optimist and is genuinely happy for others when they achieve success.
Therefore, by not tying themselves down to a toxic person, a job, a city, a country, they are the optimist who believe they truly deserve better.
People with abundance mindsets are true optimists, they believe that there is more to life then what they are getting especially if their gut tells them it is not good enough.
If you are in an abusive relationship, walking away even though initially it will be hard will be the right choice, because you will in time and after your healing find a better partner.
The abundance mindset you will gain will show you outside of the bubble of your toxic relationship that actually there are some wonderful and spectacular people out in this big wide world, who will treat you with respect, kindness and love you for who you are.
This can certainly be applied to your career too.
If you are reading this post, it is possible that you are sick to death of your job.
Well now is the time to do something about it!
By walking away from that soul-destroying job will give you the abundance mindset to explore your options.
You can finally go all in on that passion project.
Or you may wish to start a business.
Or maybe you want to work remotely and travel the world.
It does not matter what you do!
By walking away and no longer hearing the negativity, or taking on the emotions and bad energy of the people or things that have been draining your life you are reinstalling the one key to your success:
You are free to do whatever you want, with whomever you want and however you want.
When I walked away from my ex narcissist I was under the mindset of “I deserve better,” I was right.
And so do you deserve better!
The world truly is your oyster.
Spread your arms as you walk away and embrace the power of freedom.
Embrace the abundance of life because all you really need is you and you alone.
You are smart enough, beautiful enough, and wise enough to follow your gut and let better things happen to you!
#2 – Long Term Benefits
Walking away will give you short term pain, but instead benefit you from long term gains.
Let me give you an example.
If you stay in an abusive and toxic relationship with a narcissist your future with them will be like this:
- You will constantly be fighting
- You will tolerate consistent abuse
- Your health will get worse
- Your work will suffer dramatically
- Your social life will be non-existent
- You will be miserable
- You will have lots of negativity in your life
Whereas if you decided to embrace the short-term pain i.e. the breakup period, the healing, the grief, and the recovery, in the future you will meet somebody better suited and instead:
- You will be smiling and happy more
- You will be growing together
- Your health will improve
- Your work and career will skyrocket
- You will have a fantastic social life
- You will be overall happier
- You will have a far better positive outlook on life
Walking away is so powerful because it will give you the opposite of what you are currently getting.
The problem most people have is they do not wish to take the leap of faith and get out.
They instead prefer to be creatures of habits and go by the saying “better the devil you know right?!”
When I left my ex narcissist, my life in the short term was a living nightmare.
I was so distraught about being single again, and so upset that I was alone that I said that I should just go back to my toxic relationship because “better the devil you know.”
But then I remembered exactly why I left, and what the reasons behind them were too.
And I started visualizing my future, without a toxic person in it.
And through the tears on my face and the pain, I realized that over time it will get better.
I needed to start thinking long term and stop the short term.
Roughly 6 months after my breakup I became a better and different man.
I no longer had the negativity and stress from my previous toxic relationship, and instead I had a spring in my step, and I looked at the world thinking just how exciting it can be when you have that freedom and abundance.
Walking away will give you short term pain but long-term gains.
#3 – Space to Learn
I have a mantra that I repeat quite frequently in my content = “space is sexy.”
If you are too needy in your relationships, by allowing space, attraction grows (hence why it is sexy).
But when you walk away you are powerfully allowing your brain to start thinking again clearly.
By giving yourself some much-needed space, you are allowing the following to occur:
- Learn how you got yourself into this mess
- Learn why you got yourself into this mess
- Learn what to do to avoid getting yourself into this mess again.
Let me use the example again of a toxic relationship.
Learning how you got yourself into a toxic relationship is key, so you understand that you were most likely manipulated, desperate or sold a lie.
So, it is important for you to understand that regrettably there are some malevolent people out there in this world, and it is naïve and immature of you to think everything is sunshine and rainbows.
Learning why you got into a toxic relationship again is a good way of doing some much-needed inner reflection:
- Were you desperate for anybody?
- Were you just blown away by their looks?
- Was it all superficial?
- Were your standards too unrealistic?
- Why did you want to be with this toxic person above anybody else?
And lastly what to do to avoid getting yourself into a toxic relationship again.
There are some important steps you need to take here, such as learning from the previous questions of how and why you did what you did.
Now you know a little bit more about the world, so you can go out there and powerfully swat the toxic individuals and the psychopaths out of the way like a bug, and go all in on the good healthy and positive potential partners instead.
Again, you can apply this to your career.
By being stuck in the rat race of an awful job you are not allowing your mind to truly focus on what you want to do.
One of my closest buddies is a personal trainer, but during the pandemic he pursued his career as an artist, and when the gyms opened again, he walked away from his training job to do his artwork full time.
He told me; “it was a no brainer, I made fantastic money, I love what I do, and I am doing so well from it! If I didn’t have the space and time to honestly think and learn I would never had walked away from that dreadful job at the gym!”
Walking away will give you the space to learn more about yourself and what you genuinely want.
#4 – Projects Confidence
Walking away is so powerful that it will in fact project confidence even if you don’t have any!
Yes, you read that correctly!
So, if you were needy, seen as a bit weak by your partner, by walking away it shows unbelievable confidence.
And that confidence is the sheer belief in yourself that you can and will get better.
So many narcissists will abuse their partners and shatter their confidence down telling them how “they will never be good enough for anybody.”
But when you get up and walk away, suddenly YOU are the top dog.
You are the person who is seen as the one who is too good for them.
I have lost count how many times people in my friendship circles had told me “you will never be good enough for that woman etc.”
And when I walked away from these toxic friendships and turned up at a party in the future with a beautiful partner on my arms their jaws would drop to the floors.
Because I have the confidence in myself to be able to pursue whomever I want.
Let us again apply this to your career.
Your horrible boss or co-workers are probably constantly doing the same, “you are not smart enough, you have no contacts, you will never make it in anything in life!”
But once you walk out of the revolving door to that better job, new career or to start that new business you are almost like you are on adrenaline.
You are on a new path, and whilst it may be rather daunting as it is just you and all on your shoulders, please do not fear, because you will have a new found and much deserved confidence as the wind beneath your wings.
By staying where you are, or with someone toxic etc, you have no confidence.
Your life will continue to be dictated to you by others who are a waste of time for you and your development.
Instead if you walk away, you are immediately in a more confident and attractive position.
People will look at you differently, in fact they will respect you.
They will say (not that it matters,) “I cannot believe they left that relationship, what guts!”
Or “they told their boss where to go, and now they are starting their own business, I wish I was THAT brave!”
Walking away will project unbelievable confidence.