“Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of its joy.”
It is normal to think about something, were humans, we have brains it is perfectly understandable.
But Obsessively Thinking, well that is truly another story.
OCD aka Obsessive Compulsive Disorder is never a pretty sight regardless.
It is completely different to sparing a moment to think about a person who has not crossed your mind in a while.
But if you are sat thinking constantly about said person over and over again, you run the risk of causing yourself great harm.
When I used to Obsessively Think about somebody, I found myself unable to enjoy my life, very agitated, very stressed and miserable.
Why does this happen?
Why do we still Obsessively Think about our ex?
Or why do we Obsessively Think about somebody we find attractive?
What is actually going on here in our brains, and more importantly how can we put a stop to it?!
The deep route of your Obsessive Thinking is very simple and that is you have an unresolved goal attached to somebody else.
So let us dive into the example of a romantic partner, either new or old.
If you are thinking of somebody you find attractive or a crush, it is because you have the unresolved goal of wanting to have them in your life in an intimate setting.
If you are thinking about an ex, it is most likely the unresolved goal of not getting over them after your break up and therefore you wish to re-attract them back into your life as your partner.
At the end of the day, all we have is our thoughts, nothing more nothing less.
Whilst we CAN use that to our advantage there is literally no good in Obsessively Thinking over somebody.
I have noticed that it actually can mess your life up and cause you nothing but problems and more stress down the line.
It is better to use the precious time we have on this earth and in our lives to more effective means.
And as a result of doing this, we can actually use the power of the law of attraction to our advantage too.
We are very impatient as humans, we want it all and we want it now!
In the past I was just like this, I would meet a pretty girl and constantly think about her.
I would read into her every action, and whatever she said to me in way too much detail.
Without realizing it, doing that actually worked against me.
I would constantly text her, chase her, and push to see her.
Ultimately you can imagine how well that worked out over the years – it didn’t.
If I was patient, and realized that romance, love cannot be rushed, chased or forced, then maybe things would have worked out a little more in my favour.
When it comes to somebody we like there is a more powerful and effective approach to take.
What I learnt about Obsessively Thinking, was it was a habit.
I’ve had so many awful habits over the years, and they have led to such destructive addictions in my life – the worst being gambling.
Luckily like all habits and addictions – we are stronger and better than them all.
For me when I beat gambling I learnt about how I initially became addicted, and educated myself in the effective measures to get out.
It isn’t about will power – it is about learning that you have been tricked to believe gambling gives you pleasure.
Obsessively Thinking is no different.
We view Obsessively Thinking as the only measure to deal with our unresolved goals and it in a strange and ironic way it ends up giving us peace of mind.
By thinking of this person, and worrying about them obsessively, it means that somehow someway it is actually helping us.
We believe if we end up getting rejected – it is ok because we replayed it over and over in our minds expecting it to happen.
On the contrary if we end up in a relationship with them or bringing back an ex – it is ok and we know what to expect as we have over and over replayed it in our minds.
It is like playing God, but in the meantime what if nothing happens with this person?
Then we simply are out there looking for the NEXT person to fill the void of loneliness or co-dependency.
If it works out then we then start Obsessively Thinking of how we don’t want to mess it up.
Ultimately working on your confidence and self-belief is key here.
Nobody is better than you, and vice versa.
But being insecure and worrying or Obsessively Thinking is doing no good to you.
It is better to use the law of attraction and imagine either of the following;
You ending up with this person happy.
You NOT ending up with this person.
You have no control over the situation, but either the positive or negative visualization has shown you what to expect.
And the moment you have done that it is TIME TO LET IT GO.
Once you do so, throw yourself head first into a passion project;
- New business
- Fitness programme
- Pet Grooming
It really doesn’t matter what you do, but something magical will happen.
The more focused you are on something that makes your heart sing, or gives you joy and fulfilment, things fall into place in your life.
I went all in on SCG SHOW, and as a result a great thing happened for me.
A beautiful woman who I was once thinking about a great deal and had completely forgotten about reappeared into my life.
I wasn’t expecting it at all, but that is how the universe works.
When you work hard on improvement and being grateful for what you have and you channel that energy to something exciting and new – things for the better start happening to you.
And even if they don’t who cares, your life is already 10x better because you have a brand new project you are working on and no longer obsessing over somebody.