Greatest Dating Advice
This post is about the greatest dating advice you ever heard!
Yes, the best dating advice ever is in abundance all over YouTube, so it is time I give you the one that will change your entire dating life outlook!
“Dating is about finding out who you are and who others are.”
In the simplest of terms, dating has become a real nightmare for most people.
They cannot stand doing the dates, the apps, the drinks, the awkward dinners, and so on.
Yet people keep on doing it, and hooking up with strangers all because they cannot handle for example the embarrassment of turning up to their siblings wedding with no date in their arms.
The truth of the matter is dating should not be too complicated, but there are so many factors that have made it so – toxic friends, TV and overall bad advice.
Remember this, and share it with somebody who really needs to read this;
YOU WILL NEVER BE GOOD ENOUGH FOR THE WRONG PERSON.
There I said it, happy now?
If your partner is toxic, narcissistic, a sociopath or sees themselves as better than you, there is nothing you can do to change that.
If they do not see the value that you truly provide, how attractive you are, agree with your morals, or even what movie to go watch.
They are NOT right for you.
When people do not see your value understand this one fundamental truth:
THEY ARE NOT FOR YOU.
Yes, let’s get spiritual here, and look at the bigger picture.
A good healthy relationship blossoms, and grows and expands for a lifetime of happiness.
A toxic one feels forced, difficult, hard, destructive and painful.
Yet people pursue them because they don’t want to be alone?
The loneliest I have ever felt my entire life was being in a relationship with somebody that was not right for me.
You also must understand that this wrong person we date or are in a relationship with has no right to step up to our own standards either.
We cannot expect a toxic individual or a bad match to love us the way we want and need them too.
That is like asking a horse to be a racing car.
A leopard doesn’t change its spots, and you are chasing and pursuing something that is wrong.
I was like you, I absolutely loathed dating and being single.
I hated the apps, the hook-up culture, the drinks, the meals, the freaks and weirdos.
I hated not having anybody to love and cuddle me, no intimate relationships and so on.
Yes it sucked for me, and I am pretty sure you feel the same way.
But like I did, you have the power and ability to change your dating life right now.
The thing is from our parents to our ancestors we truly haven’t learnt the right way to approach love and relationships.
Let us be honest here, were winging it.
We don’t really have a clue what we are doing, and we watch movies and television fantasizing when we have no idea what the right step to take is!
Just because you are a good person doesn’t mean you deserve a good relationship to fall into your lap and just magically happen, you have to instead adjust your approach.
There is a more effective and simple way to look at dating, compared to what the masses are doing and whoever is advising you.
Please stop listening to them and follow exactly what I say:
Stop wasting your time.
Yes, you heard me.
Stop going out with the wrong type of people, chasing the wrong people, attracting the wrong people.
Stop doing what others think is cool, or works for them.
Chase what is meaningful to have a meaningful life.
Just because your friend is a player, or she wraps men around her finger and strings them along doesn’t mean you need to do that too.
How many times have you met somebody and even though that you liked them, but in the real depths of your stomach or your soul you knew “this person isn’t right for me.”
And what do we do, we still persist.
We don’t want to be alone, or single or without “love.”
And down the line it only gets worse because you have been flogging that dead horse that was never supposed to go beyond a handful of dates if that.
You find yourself married or living with somebody that doesn’t truly make you happy, or make your life better.
They don’t connect with you, on any level and you are mentally, spiritually and emotionally starved.
But it was better than being alone right?
You end up fat, old, miserable and in divorce court most likely.
It all comes from wasting your time, this is the root cause of all of these problems.
Stop wasting your time.
Yes while there are lessons to learn in relationships and failures are the greatest teachers.
But if the answer is staring at you in the face and you take no action what the hell is wrong with you?
It is like getting punched in the face – yes it hurts, yes it is awful, yes it is unacceptable.
But you stay, and day after day this bad relationship keeps punching you in the face.
And there you are just taking it, and taking it, and then you moan that you are unhappy?
Well you wasted your time chasing something not right for you or that was wrong.
Because you didn’t want to sit alone at a wedding?
Or perhaps your confidence was so in the floor you thought you couldn’t do better?
Or perhaps your family or friends pressured you and you didn’t know what else to do?
Take responsibility and stop wasting your damn time on people and things that will only lead to toxic, negative results.
There is no good pursuing something that is not worthwhile, and the universe will send you an even bigger punch in the face if you are not careful and going along the path you were meant to be on.
Yes there are nights alone, yes it can hurt post break up.
But being in a relationship where you are alone, unfulfilled is worse.
And the time you invest in that you will never recover, and above all else in life all we truly ever have is time.
How are you going to use yours?