In this video I discuss healthy ways to make your ex guy regret losing you.
There is nothing worse than discovering that your fiancé, or hubby, or boyfriend has straight up gone and left your life like you didn’t exist.
This is NOT healthy behaviour and most likely the doing of the following personality traits;
A Cheater – cheaters are my pet hate. I loathe these types with a passion. These dishonest and disgraceful human beings have no remorse. Why would they? They’ve been sleeping with other women behind your back and lying to your face saying how much they loved you! So why else would they care about leaving you like you mean nothing to them? Sad reality is, you never were!
Narcissists – urgh, the dreaded Narc is the king of entitlement. Everything is his way, and that goes for people. You were his toy. His object. His supply. And for whatever reason (sometimes NO reason) he’s got shiny object syndrome and is straight onto his new toy, aka his new squeeze. These types have no remorse, no regrets, no empathy, nothing. You never mattered to them to begin with. I know that’s hard to understand, but the truth hurts.
Psychopaths/borderlines – ouch. I’m no Dr, but these guys straight up don’t know anything normal and healthy. So if you’ve been dumped unharmed by one of these dudes, count your lucky stars it was just a dumping. There is a deeper and much darker sides to people like this, so thank god they’ve left.
At the end of the day, no woman wants to be Carrie from Sex and the City, who got dumped on a post it note on her fridge.
But in modern times that could be a whatsapp, a snapchat, a facebook, a direct message.
“Its over, sorry.”
Ok fine, its over. No explanation, or even if you got one it’s probably lame. He’s packed his bags, or you have packed yours you have gone.
What you going to do about it?
CRY YOUR BLOODY EYES OUT!
You MAY or MAY NOT receive closure from such an individual, but that doesn’t mean you cannot create your own closure for yourself.
We must go back to centre, and heal ourselves from trauma and emotional wounds.
Not doing so will set you up for the most almighty of crashes emotionally. You can be shopping in Walmart and BOOM!
PTSD knocks you to your knees and you are crying, and have no idea why.
Remember we want to make the ex-boyfriend REGRET losing you.
Not feel good about it.
Every circumstance is different but let’s assume you were the perfect partner.
You did the following;
- You were loyal
- You were loving
- You were kind
- You cooked for him
- You helped him in times of need
- You were easy going
- You were sympathetic
I’m going to assume you were not a cheater, and so on but a good person. That’s very important of course.
So what do you do?
Well assuming you’ve gone from the stage of grief, and remorse of the relationship ending, now it is time to heal but also make them regret.
Your friends will advise you poorly;
“Have a rebound, have fun!”
“Show off your new jewellery!”
“Forget men, its girls all you need!”
Wrong, my methods are healthy and will work in your favour.
Stop stalking him.
I know its hard, but trust me, you gotta do it!
That’s everything, all his social media, his whatsapp picture the whole lot. You got to stop doing it right now!
And for the love of god, please stop going by his house. What are you hoping to see?
You are acting crazy, and you are not crazy! They are for leaving you?
If he catches you stalking him in anyway, you will look like a fool, and we don’t want that.
Do not block him, unless he has been abusive or aggressive towards you in any shape or form. Let him see you which leads onto my next point.
DO NOT CONTACT HIM!
No facebook, no email, no text. Go no contact and even if he does reach out, stay no contact.
Do not reply, nothing!
This person felt so little of you to leave, so he should and will regret you giving him the cold shoulder.
Keep any social media posts you make classy.
Again do not listen to friends “I don’t need a man.”
Just post about things you love, nature, makeup, fashion whatever!
Don’t upload a video of yourself in a nightclub getting drunk.
KEEP IT CLASSY!
Take this opportunity to explore your options and date around.
NOT SLEEP AROUND, date.
Go out and meet new people.
This will eat your ex up inside if you do so. And especially if they find out through the grapevine you are dating again.
Lastly this is a key thing here and this may be difficult to understand:
Don’t play the victim.
It is extremely easy to sit there and feel sorry for yourself, and it will also make you feel better when others feel sympathetic toward your situation.
I get that, and that’s fine initially.
But if you dwell on it, for months or even years, well there is only going to be one guest at the pity party and that is you.
There is nothing more attractive than a person who goes through a hardship and comes out stronger, better and wiser.
Nobody likes the person who sits around moaning, feeling negative and living in the past full of regret and remorse.
Remember you WANT him to REGRET losing you.
If he hears you are so sad all the time and nothing without him, your ex will find that amusing and it will make him feel GOOD about himself.
We don’t want that we want to make you feel good and you will if you trust my methods.
Nothing I have suggested is spiteful, revengeful, and rude or hurts anybody.
They are simple psychological tricks to come out better in a very difficult situation.